June 22, 2013
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What Do You Do When a Practical Stranger Confesses to Cheating?
One morning, this guy, John*, texted me out of the blue. John is a friend of one of my best friends, and he was thinking about moving out to southern California, which is where I go to school. My friend put John in contact with me last November, so he could ask me questions about the area. He was little flirty at the time, which I thought was kind of inappropriate because I knew he had a girlfriend, but I brushed it off as harmless.
So, when John randomly texted me this week, I figured he was going to update me on his moving plans or simply want to catch up. We chatted for a while before he nonchalantly mentioned that he had hooked up with one of his co-workers. Multiple times. To be clear, this confession was not a guilty "help me, what do I do, I have made a mistake" confession. This was a snide "look at me" confession. Also just to clarify, he is still with his girlfriend.
Now, I would not consider John to be my friend. A friend of a friend is a good way to describe him (although I am not quite sure how close he and my friend are either). And I certainly do not know John's girlfriend. So, how do I handle the situation? Can I tell John what he did was wrong? Or is it not my place?
Have you ever had someone you are not close with confess to cheating? What did you do? Did you feel comfortable scolding an acquaintance for their infidelity? Or did you leave it alone?
Comments (10)
Next time he brags about it just tell him he's a piece of shit. Simple as that.
As a person with morals, I think there is nothing wrong with helping out a fellow human being done wrong..
the cheaters that I've encountered usually don't care, so they don't think it is a mistake. one guy told me that he had flings with women from myspace. this was probably way back when. then after i found out that his gf knew since she caught him due to finding evidence of the other woman at their home, she is still with him. so she knows yet still stays. I can't tell her because she already knows. I was one of many that he was flirting with. I didn't sex him up although he wanted to. the really hot half black/white guy was flirting with me, so I ditched the other guy and flirted with him instead. not that he would care since he has others. but I got bored with the hot guy later. he looks really good naked but kpop vids are more entertaining I wasn't going to hookup with the hot guy either because I don't do that. I have a bf now that I can actually talk to and enjoy it:D
Well I didn't give someone I barely knew my number for a start. That'd be a fairly intelligent start, wouldn't it? Would you like some help looking both ways when you cross the road, too? Do you need the toilet?
not your place to say anything. you dont know his girlfriend or the terms of the relationship. unless he asks for your opinion, i'd say lay off :/
Next time he 'strays' from the topic of wanting to know more about southern California? tell him you don't want to discuss anything else and make sure you are not interested in what he has to say...And, don't fall for him when he moves to your area... Trouble with a capitol T
not your place
just keep it at south cali, otherwise you dont need to respond to him. what a douche..
you get that he told you that because he wants to hook up with you and is letting you know that having a girlfriend will not deter him, right? I would absolutely tell her. girl code. fuck that, he's a piece of shit.
It's not your business at all, sounds like you and the guy are just acquaintances so I don't get why you'd be bothered really. I mean, if you're not evangelizing to him, why should he care what you think and why should your friend? John* is an adult.
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