@Kittyluve@xanga - i wouldn't mind it.  i'm far more career-oriented than my boyfriend, and i have no interest in being an unpaid maid/cook on a daily basis.  

@TheGuyYouD0ntKnow@xanga - "First off, most single parent households happen due to necessity! A BAD necessity! As in, father leaves the mother with a kid/kids to fend for themselves."i think the point is that if such a thing happens, the woman doesn't have to struggle because she is capable of taking care of herself and her children.  "despite that fact that it isn't usually a positive thing."it should be.  as for supremacy, you seem to be arguing in favor of male supremacy by saying that it's a bad thing that women can now maintain households on their own.  if men have always been banking on women's dependence, they need to come up with a better reason for being needed.  "As someone with a shitty father and ultimately single mother, yeeeeah, it's wasn't a particularly good, or easy thing."not all single-parent households have the same issues as yours did.  yeah, my father left.  but he was still very much a wonderful father and continues to be.  my parents' divorce was very amicable and they are good friends now, similar to how things were before they ever got together romantically.  so no, being a single parent isn't always horrible.  "I guess you're all for women out-earning men but apparently 9 year olds should be wearing heels. Great start on ruining all of your backs! Feminism, everyone."part of being a feminist is telling women that can do whatever they like, including wearing high heels. 

@TheTheologiansCafe@xanga - perhaps men have been sucking at managing their career lives throughout all of history.  none of the working women i know doing anything of the sort.  

@Ghillies_guide@xanga - are my feelings supposed to be hurt because you don't know my first name?  most people on xanga don't.  i prefer it that way.  if i feel like replying to a comment you post on a public forum, i will do so (particularly when you say something asinine).  is there someone at your house holding a knife to your balls, forcing you to read it?  if you don't want to speak to me, you probably shouldn't.  why i should respect your request to ignore you is beyond me.  

@Ghillies_guide@xanga - i normally enjoy dialogue, but i only find that valuable in a face-to-face setting.  online debate is akin to having a meaningful conversation via text.  when i post online, it's simply to say what i have to say.  also, you make the assumption that i actually remember what you've said to me in the past.  i usually forget you exist until i see a comment from you.  when it comes to people i don't like, particularly in an online setting, i have the memory of a goldfish.

@T3hZ10n@xanga - very true.  alas, remembering who is and isn't trolly usually ends up in my goldfish memory, too (Curtis is the exception).

@theotherside - i'm a proud feminist and do nothing of the sort.  i tend to avoid condemning a whole gender for something not all of them do (my SO is remarkably not patriarchal and misogynistic).  

@TheGuyYouD0ntKnow@xanga - "I was arguing in favor of having two parents, actually."a divorce doesn't prevent a child from having two parents.  "And yet feminism is also against gender roles and "social constructs"; and the idea that wearing high heels is feminine certainly is. "1.  historically, women aren't the only gender to have worn high heels.2.  feminism is against gender roles, yes.  but i don't see why that would mean that women, and men, cannot choose to wear whatever they like.  one of my nicest, and obviously most open-minded, guy friends from college regularly wears skirts.  the issue is not what constitutes a gender role, but the notion that those things are meant for specific genders.  as a feminist, i'm not against the idea of women wearing heels.  i'm against the ideas that only women should wear heels, and that women should wear only heels and nothing else.  "the problem is that giving your young daughter high heels because apparently that's what women wear, is encouraging the idea, manipulating a young mind that has yet think on it itself, and also giving a grand head start on back problems all for the sake of a false concept!"i can't say i ever had that experience.  my mom let me wear whatever i wanted as a kid, as long as i was legally covered enough to be in public.  when i was 10, i wore heels because i wanted to.  i never felt like it was required of me.  

@TheGuyYouD0ntKnow@xanga - "Which contradicts feminist stances."according to what?  where in contemporary feminist literature does it dictate that female children should be prevented from wearing high heels?  i think your concept of a feminist is delusional.  "I have seen young toddlers who put on their mother's heels because, you know, they're imitating what their mother does and interpret that as a thing that they should do as well. "my mom didn't, and doesn't, wear a heel any higher than half an inch.  

@theotherside - for me, it's about ridding ourselves of any notion that only men should do X, and only women should do Y.  i think men and women are equal in pretty much every sense, and i don't see the purpose of deciding what someone can and cannot do based on their gender.  

@theotherside - sure, as long as they were of the same weight class.

@theotherside - "Do you have any idea of the male to female ratio of upper body strength, even if they are the same weight class?"sure.  but i also have several female friends who, thanks to years of training in martial arts, can take down men half their size.  for many women, such setbacks can be overcome.  so why should their choices be restricted? "The point I'm driving at is that in not all instances is absolute equality a good thing."i have to disagree.  we can't pick and choose how we'd like to be equal based on what preferences we have.  either we're equal to men, or we're not.  anything in between results in those women who like to bitch about equality in the workplace and reproductive rights, but would freak out at the idea of women being included in a military draft (i'd support it, by the way).  you can't have your cake and eat it, too.  "I would gladly be a feminist if they embraced the equality of all, not trying to prove that they are "better" than anyone else or rejecting men entirely and if their focus was more guided instead of the sloppy nonsense it has become."*shrug* well, that's your choice.  i'm not one to disregard an ideology or label because of how other people utilize it.  i was raised with a different kind of feminism, apparently, and it's not important to me what other feminists do.  i do find it kind of sad that you reject the entire feminist movement, but probably still benefit from it.  

@theotherside - i'd be okay with that.  i'd actually like to see jails sorted according to offense.  murderers in one, thieves in another, etc.  if someone is charged for multiple crimes, they get sorted according to the most serious offense.  i don't believe sex should be a factor in which prison you go to.