June 25, 2013

  • What If His Friend's Don't Like Me?

    It was really important to me that I make a good impression when I met my boyfriend's friends for the first time. I had this really intense fear, just like when I met his parents for the first time, that they would try to find any reason to not like me. For the most part, I was wrong!

    Most of his friends were incredibly open, sweet, and cool guys, except for one, Caleb. I won't fault Caleb because I don't think he set out to dislike me from the beginning but I think he was the sort of person who number one, thought so highly of my boyfriend that nobody would be good enough, and number two, he was the sort of person who preferred having all single friends. 

    Now I'll touch on that subject for a second because all of my closest girl friends are single except for one. I've never had a problem with having all single friends because I love going out with them downtown, hearing their stories about single life, and it doesn't bother me that I don't share the same experiences as them. I can't relate to their stories of late night hookups with guys they met at bars, or dinner dates with strangers. But I enjoy hearing about my friends' lives. I don't know if single people love hearing about relationships as much.

    Caleb and my boyfriend were really close, and I think once I was factored into the equation, my boyfriend started giving me attention that was once solely allotted to his friends. I did everything to try to impress Caleb, but it was no use. I had to let Caleb know that I would never try to take my boyfriend away from him and his friends. I adore each and every one of them, and I want my boyfriend to be able to go out and hang out with his friends whenever he pleases, but I am an important part of my boyfriend's life now and whether he likes it or not, I'm here to stay.

    Eventually the situation was squashed. Caleb and I will never be close I don't think, he's not that sort of guy, but as long as we can tolerate each other, that's really all I can ask for.

    Have you ever had a problem with your SO's friends? If so, how did you resolve it, if you resolved it? People in relationships, do you mind having single friends? And vice versa, all you single people, does it bother you having friends who are in relationships?

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Comments (5)

  • Don't worry about that one friend. If you talked to your boyfriend about it, he would probably think it odd that another guy's opinion (especially someone you don't know all that well) matters so much to you.

  • Meh I don't think what if they don't like me, I think what if I don't like them? That's the big issue. haha

  • everyone likes me, obvs, so i don't have this issue.damn, it feels good to be a gangsta.

  • I never liked most of my boyfriend's friends when we first started dating.One of his friends, Brandon, was just always a jerk. He had been with my boyfriend's other friend Heather for a while before we started dating, and no matter what we were doing, where we were, he would always make sex jokes, or the two of them would fight, or hang all over each other. I really did not see one redeeming quality about him. Not long after my boyfriend started disliking him too, and now they are no longer friends.Both of my boyfriend's current friends are single. But they are definitely not single by choice. I dislike them both, but they just hate me because my boyfriend would rather be with me than them... which, you know, should sorta be obvious. We've been together almost 6 years now. It's not like I'm stopping him from seeing his friends. He will just choose to be with me over them most of the time.But they are too immature and selfish for me. I don't really care much if they like me, because I'm sure in time he'll drop them like the others. He gets really sick of stupid people who piss him off more than help him out pretty quickly. All they do is sit around and play video games, and one whines about how he can't get girls while the other whines about how my boyfriend never does anything with them. It's pretty pathetic. I don't even see how he can call them friends, since they are both petty and annoying.But, I suppose a guy needs some "friends". I myself don't have any that I talk to with any regularity, and prefer it that way.Caleb sounds like my boyfriend's friend Matt, who thinks that my boyfriend should hang out with them all the time and not me. I honestly don't see the point in having needy friends like that. That's how clingy lovers behave, not grown men with their friends. Jeez.xX Ame ~*~ Hana Xx

  • Oh my god. The grammatical error in the title is just so awful I can't even. 

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