June 26, 2013
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Last Friday night, one of my coworkers threw a party at her apartment. It was a typical college party – loud music blaring from an iHome, Jungle Juice getting warm in a cooler, beer pong being played on a door. I was told that I could bring anyone I wanted, but my fiancée wasn’t feeling too well that night, and she had work in the morning. Yet again, I was faced with the decision: should I go out or should I stay home with my SO?
The party started at 10:30, and by 10:15, I still hadn’t made up my mind. Of course, the best case scenario would be going to the party and bringing Mercedes with me, but that just wasn’t an option. I was leaning towards going, but I knew I would feel shitty for leaving Mercedes home alone and sick. At the same time, this was my first opportunity to socialize with my coworkers, and I knew that if I didn’t go, I’d hear all about what an awesome time everyone had and feel totally left out.
Trying to be diplomatic, I asked Mercedes what she would rather me do. She said she would feel bad for keeping me at home, but simultaneously, she wanted me to stay there with her. My decision wasn’t getting any easier. And because this party was downtown (which would make for an hour or so walk), I would also need a ride – from Mercedes – if I wanted to go.
I’ll jump to the conclusion. I ended up going to the party, and Mercedes dropped me off and picked me up. We didn’t get home until close to 5 in the morning, which meant she only got 4 hours of sleep before she had to go to work. Yeahhh, I wasn’t the most considerate fiancée that night. I also wasn’t the most sober. Mercedes had to drag my drunken ass around – literally – and take care of me once I got home.
Looking back, at least at this particular night, I think I made the wrong decision. I mean, I don’t want to be that couple who is attached at the hip, but I really should put Mercedes first. Given the circumstances of that night, I should’ve skipped the party. By being inconsiderate, I not only left Mercedes sick and alone, but I also kept her awake into the early morning hours and screwed her over for work the next day. Damn. Live and learn.
Do you ever have to make the “should I stay or should I go” decision? What do you normally choose to do? Are you ever the one who gets left alone at home?
Comments (9)
I think you should've stayed at home. Being sick and alone while your so is out having a drunken blast and then you have to get her at the ass crack o dawn must've sucked. It might help to put yourself in her shoes next time a hard decision comes up.
No you could have gone to the party but you didn't have to get mercedes to take you, especially if she was sick. If my partner has to work and is sick I wouldn't even ask them to drive me around and look after me. I get my own way to the party and back. Or they take me there if they want to but then I stay when they have to go home early for work. You didn't have to stay home just because she had to work, that is being a couple that is attached at the hip and it's definitely being inconsiderate seeing as she was sick to make her be your taxi. That was definitely a bad decision.
It was a dick move on your part but at least you recognized it as such.
how sick are we talking? like borderline needs to go to the hospital, or has a little cold?i totally support your decision to go to the party, but i also think if you (the royal you) can't hold your liquor, you shouldn't drink so much. i 100% believe in living it up--i mean, i'm shitfaced at the clubs 2+ nights a week--i just don't think other people should need to babysit you. that's for 1st-year drinkers.
I think the dick move was making her get up when she's feeling like shit at some ungodly hour to take your drunk ass home and take care of you, especially since she had to work in the morning. If you had found another way home and didn't disturb her sleep, then I don't think it'd matter as much.
why didn't you just drive yourself to and from? asking for a sick person to pick a drunk up at dawn on a workday is ridiculous and juvenile. take a cab home next time and dont bother other people, esp your s.o, with such petty problems.
You should have gone if you could have done so without inconveniencing your sick girlfriend.
oh right, 21.
she's sick, not dying. she's a grown ass women and being away from you one night shouldn't kill her.The again, maybe this is why i'm single. I just don't give a fuck.But yes I agree with people above, having her pick up drunk you at 4am is a dick move even if she wasn't sick. I guess being a dick is better than drinking and driving so kudos to you? yea.. i'm all over the place on this one.
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