June 28, 2013
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What's Your Fantasy? Anal Sex
One night at school, my friend, Mary*, was talking about how much she thoroughly enjoyed anal sex with her boyfriend. She enjoys it so much that she actually uses the "butt plug" she received as a gag gift last Christmas to "loosen herself" up before seeing her boyfriend. A couple of my friends were completely enticed by anal. They asked my friend how it was and for any tips. (These tips included going to the bathroom an hour before and lots of foreplay to relax you.) Some of my friends seemed quite eager to try it themselves.We chatted about some of the horror stories we had heard about anal--a friend of a friend actually "relieved" herself on her boyfriend their first time. I shit you not. (No pun intended.) We thought it was interesting, however, that all the disastrous stories we heard were from straight couples and not from any of our gay friends. (For some reason, all of our sexually active gay friends have experienced anal without any major problems.)
One of my friends, Kari*, was particularly frustrated with the conversation. She was one of the girls who wanted to try, but she was concerned her boyfriend wouldn't want to. She felt like her boyfriend was too much of a "prude" for him to even consider trying it. She was desperate for any tips to make him come around to the idea. Just to try it at least once.
Have you ever thought about trying anal sex? Or would you never consider it? Any helpful tips to prevent potential missteps? Are their any effective and graceful ways of approaching the topic with a partner?
Comments (30)
My Fantasy is Final, and it's happened 14 times or so.
"Hey, boyfriend. Wanna have butt sex?"Problem solved.
Whatever you do, tell your friend and her boyfriend not to wear jeans while they do it. I mean, c'mon picture choosers!!
"Anal intercourse does make the opening of the bottom a bit more slack. This change is clearly visible in anyone (male or female) who has often been on the receiving end of rectal penetration. That could make a person slightly incontinent of faeces – especially on days when the bowel motions were loose."FUCK THAT!!!
I've thought about it but would never consider doing it. What am I, a sodomite? There's no graceful of asking to get your butt banged out, hahaah. As "progressive" as we all may be 100 years from now the anus still won't be designed for sexual intercourse, so there's no way to avoid mishaps or side-effects, especially if it something a person intends on doing more than once or with any regularity.
Anal sex like oral sex is going to happen regardless. Best to have this conversation to help people, particularly those on the receiving end, to prepare their bodies. Both oral and anal have been traditional ways for women to avoid pregnancy while still performing their perceived marital "duties".It is very prevalent amongst those grown bored with the same ol' same ol'. Sexual games are the spice of a sexual life.To raise the subject, especially for those caught in a cycle of boring "missionary" position, is to suggest doggy style sex or oral if not tried. It is a stepping stone. One primary reason for its popularity with men is that it is tighter than a mature vagina. Much more stimulating on the penis.
It helps to rest, after having anal intercourse. We once made the mistake of going rollerblading after anal sex.
his rhinestone sneakers is such a turn off. I wouldn't mind if he rubs his member between my asscrack but entering is a no. I saw a guy lick her asshole in porn and then he spit something liquid-y out or I think he spit his saliva on her hole, then licked it. it wasn't a sexual turn on at all no matter how hot the female is. I saw a pornstar fist her own asshole and all I could think about was the internal and external hemmorhoid aftermath. she looked lubed enough to not injure herself but it was just not my thing, so I just didn't find it sexy. or maybe I'm not sexually attracted to females, so I didn't find the scene appealing. I don't find nude boobs sexy either. the giant butts on women aren't attractive to me either. I just think about it being filled with fat and I don't find it a turn on. soft looking bodies overall just doesn't excite me. I like hard bodies on men and overall hard stuff maybe I'd find it hot if a toned woman pegged a hard bodied guy than if a guy was having anal with a soft bodied female. a few of the softies are hot but normally, I don't find them appealing. I see why anal is appealing to some because it is tighter. when the female's vag looks way too easy to penetrate due to her being turned on or other reasons, then even vag intercourse isn't necessarily sexually appealing to me. tight bodies and tight vags ftw. this is enough crudeness for one comment. I highly prefer my schoolgirl daydreams over porn. try to forget I wrote this...but I have to submit it l8rz
I don't think I'm a prude for not wanting to try anal sex. It just isn't my thing.
I don't really understand why a guy would want to put their thing in the place where shit comes out or how that seems attractive. I could see why a guy wouldn't be into it.
@essien@xanga - actually there are... @AutumnStrength@xanga - ive played with anal sex toys plenty of times... ive never had any problems with incontinence.
As a nurse, I have noted that gay men have expanded anal sphincters and therefore cannot control their bowel movements. Yeah...just so you know. TMII would never have painful anal sex...
"I shit you not. (No pun intended.)"Bullshit.
uhhh idk. ive had it a handful times in the past and it was mostly unpleasant, maybe I didn't use butt plugs and wasn't very thorough in preparation but I did slather on lube liberally. not thrilled to try it again. I've only had one anal that was "successful" in that we finished, instead of stopping half way, and it wasn't particularly pleasurable for either party. nah... yeah are there any other tips except for butt plugs and lube?
That pun was definitely intended.
I just lost my virginity to it last week. It was so painful and only lasted a few seconds. I will never, never never do it again.
I've never done it and I don't want to.
@LauraDeLuna@xanga - Actually they're very much not. It's not designed as a substitute for the vagina, which is the only thing designed for a penile beat down.
@essien@xanga - first of all your abrupt mocking tone is quite rude and unappreciated.second of all i do not particularly believe you understood the nature of my statement.i believe that you either deliberately or indeliberately misread my statement and now i am forced to correct the misreading by firstly explaining different forms of a certain word and secondly expanding upon my original premise.there are many forms of the word "there" these different forms being "their" as in "belonging to them", "there" as in "in a particular place/position" and "theyre" as in "they are".i am of the opinion that you must have thought i mean the third option when i actually meant the second.after all doesnt the idea of saying "they are are" seem a bit ridiculous to you?now i will lengthen my original response and describe the particular phrase i was responding to.you said there was no safe way to have anal sex.any person experienced with anal sex knows there is.i am experienced with anal sex.there are 100% safe ways to have anal sex. unfortunately some of the people having anal sex are not very good at having safe anal sex.it is much the same with condoms.lots of people use condoms to prevent pregnancy. lots of people are too stupid to figure out how to use the condoms they use to keep from getting pregnant correctly. lots of people get pregnant because of that.are you now going to say that condoms are not meant to be used?i suggest that next time, before writing an immature and snotty reply to me, you actually read what i am saying and attempt to interpret it the way it was said rather than leaping to conclusions and inferring that i was saying something that was not said.
@greatredwoman@xanga - anal sex is only painful without lubrication....
@katethoughts@xanga - it takes getting used to. go slow. start small and work your way up to a butt plug. fingering is really nice but even then you have to use lots of lube.
We've tried on a couple different occasions. All I can say is, "Fuck that" and "OUCH". One of my friends, it hurt her so much she cried and he got stuck.
Tried it once and I HATED it. Way too painful, and it's too weird thinking that it's the same hole where my shit exits. Never again.
I have never wanted to do it and thought I would never consider it, but lately I have been thinking about trying it. My boyfriend seems like he'd like to try it before he dies. He's not too eager, but maybe that's just because he knows I'm not into it.After reading this and the comments though, I don't think I'd like to. I am at the point where I would consider foreplay with some anal finger penetration but I think that'll be as far as I go.
i doubt many men would actually say no to anal. there's no way i would try it. absolutely no way, no how.
my boyfriend and i do anal rather frequently and it drives me wild. the best advice i can give for beginners is lots of lube and get your partner to use a finger or two to loosen you up beforehand. the first time we did it, neither of us knew what we were doing and although it ended up going alright, the first few minutes nearly made me cry (let's be honest, it still almost does even with a generous amount of lubricant, he's just rather large). butt i think it's fantastic, and if you can get over the first initial "oh god, what if i make a mess" thoughts, then it can be rather enjoyable. i definitely suggest lots of lube and lots of play before you decide to try such a thing though.
I find some of the comments funny.I have tried it, and with great success. To be honest, it took time on my part, and then time on his part, but with proper time it is very pleasing. I do highly suggest that an one wanting to try, experiment with it themselves before jumping in. Such as in the middle of sex, say "Hey, why don't you bang my ass?". Which would make the women, or man.. No judgements., get very hurt and very turned off from the idea.I have had a guy "slip.". It fucking hurts. There are special lubes for anal, which I have. Special condoms with extra lube, and don't forget that while playing that you should not take things that have been in the ass to the mouth or the vulva. This just being common sense, but I felt it was needed for the people that insist that anal is painful. Time and love is what anal takes. Enjoy!
I love receiving anal. It's a sure fire way for me to orgasm pretty hard. I've never had any issues with it hurting, so maybe I have a big or loose anus, haha. I dunno. My boyfriend now has a pretty large penis and it still doesn't hurt to do anal. MY fantasy is to give my boyfriend anal. He's pretty against it, haha.
My philosophy is "exit only." I will never participate in anal sex. Ever.
I honestly don't think anal is very safe or sanitary. I've done it in the past and I never enjoyed it. It doesn't feel nice and it's pretty gross. While my boyfriend and I were doing it doggy style, he was doing it so hard that he accidently went up my butt and I started bleeding like crazy. That pretty much scarred me for life. To this day he keeps insisting on doing anal, and I turn him down every time. The day he lets me stick something up his ass is the day I will let him stick his member up mine.
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