June 30, 2013
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The Future of Love?
Last night, one of my best friends from home and I were talking about chatting online. After hearing such horror stories about being tricked by the person you are chatting with and that person lying about their identity, my friend had a couple questions: "Okay, people claim that they can fall in love with a person online just by chatting with them over time and never seeing them in person. But what if you finally do meet that person, and they have been lying about their physical (not emotional) identity? What if they are not even the same gender as what they claimed? Do you still love them? Are you gay now because you apparently fell in love with someone of the same gender?"
My friend went on to explain that is why she did not like our society's desperate need to label everything, especially our sexualities. Why must we be forced to identify ourselves as being straight, gay, bi, queer, pansexual etc..? My friend asserted that in the future, not necessarily the near future at all, it will be the norm to fall in love with people, regardless of gender.
Do you think this is a plausible prediction? Do you agree with it? Have you ever developed a relationship online and then found out they were not who they said they were? Did you feel the same way about them?
Comments (7)
I think you're stretching the word "love".Will future people (assuming your prediction is correct) truly love one another, or will they behave in ways that people who actually loved each other once did while simply indulging themselves in what they desire while calling it love?I think the word love is being confused with meaning a personal feeling of happiness and satisfaction with one's choice in a talking sex object. "I'm totally happy with this person.". Yeah, and I'm happy with my lawn, that doesn't mean I'm in love with it.
I think you can love someone after just chatting with them, but I don't think you can be in love with them in a romantic sense. I say this because I believe romantic love requires sexual attraction and that always has a physical component. You can definitely develop a strong emotional and intellectual bond through chatting, but at least for the vast, vast majority of people that will not be enough for romantic love, they will actually need to see the person (or at least a real picture of them) to be physically attracted.
This is a good thinking point, I have no idea. I sometimes think I could fall in love with a girl but I never have and I'm not physically attracted to any girls I know so hmm it's anyone's guess. Can't see the future.
How could you be in love with someone who lied to you? Please don't act like falling out of love in a case like that would be the fault of evil society for making everyone follow a label. That would be a person either refusing to live in reality, or who likes to lie about it. The other person would be justfified in dropping them for either reason. I did develop a relationship online, and he is exactly who he said he was.
Hm. This question actually stumped me. Would I be able to actually fall in love with a person if that person turns out to be say, my gender? Answering this question can have dire consequences for me lol. But really I don't have those kind of feelings for my gender, and I doubt I ever will.I was going to say it's possible I would still love her. But it wouldn't be the same kind of love. I'm just too heterosexual to see it.@galliver@xanga - I actually think it's very possible for people to fall for each other solely on written words. like how you would sometimes fall in love with a book. or the characters in a book. I mean, physicality is only one component of a relationship. I think the true foundation of love stems from mental, emotional and spiritual connection. The physicality is a nice touch, but i don't think it's the main focus. (disclaimer - that's just my opinion.)
the real issue is the future of jealousy
well, I don't know. Cyber relationships are strange. I have imaginary relationships.
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