While flipping through some of my movie channels this week on one of my rare nights off, I came across one of my favorite feel good movies: Hitch. The movie stars Will Smith and Eva Mendes in which Smith's character plays a date doctor/ "consultant" that unexpectedly ends up falling in love, inexplicably (because that's how we all fall in love) with Mendes' workaholic, slightly toxic character. Hitch is one of those movies that makes you believe in the magic of love and that if you really set your mind to it YOU TOO can have the person that you have already decided on. Err, I'm not really sure that happens in real life.

It's a movie after all, so of course that wouldn't happen in real life, but then again, maybe. Before Mendes' character falls in love with Smith's she is a cynic when it comes to life but especially when it comes to love. She is clearly a beautiful woman and she pushes men away because she believes that all men are the same and that dating is a game. Boo hoo. Yeah, dating fucking sucks. Get over it. But that's not my point. One line in particular, from her character's dialogue really resonated with me, allow me to paraphrase: aren't people in relationships just really waiting for something better to come along? Hmm...  Continue reading →

Earlier today, I was having a very interesting conversation with my older brother about the sexual revolution. The sexual revolution was a social movement that started in the 1960s challenging traditional codes of conduct involving sexuality. My brother explained that as far as he knew, he was alone in the belief that the sexual revolution has not been an entirely positive thing for our society. He thought that sometimes, the so-called "liberating" qualities of the revolution only encouraged casual sex. (He defined casual sex as sex without emotion.)  Continue reading →

This is going to sound a bit ridiculous, but I could never date someone who wasn't a good kisser. It is an instant turnoff to me. Whether there's too much saliva, too much tongue, or teeth colliding, nothing can turn me off quicker than a bad kisser. The first time my current boyfriend and I kissed was a pretty awkward situation. 

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One summer afternoon, I was having lunch with my friends Victoria and Anna, catching them up on my personal life and hearing all about theirs. Victoria had just recently started dating this guy named Will, and, of course, Anna and I were eager to hear all about him. Victoria told us all about his traits, his quirks… and his 21 sexual partners.  

Anna and I were a little taken aback. I thought to myself, Will has had as many sexual partners as years I’ve been alive. Victoria didn’t (and still doesn’t) seem to care about Will’s number, though. But should she? How many sexual partners is too many? Continue reading →

Last night, I was making dinner at my friend's house. She had invited some of her friends from school over to help, and I was chatting with one of them. She had just graduated, and a lot of her friends were getting engaged or at least in very serious relationships. She was very worried about one of these friends in one of these relationships. She told me she was worried her friend's boyfriend was gay, and she was wondering if she should say something to her. I thought it was odd that she was even contemplating this, but I adamantly told her that it was not her business. She should simply let their relationship be. She pressed further with her concerns until she finally whispered to me, "he has a Grindr."  Continue reading →

Sex by itself is great, but sex with kickass music is even better. Playing music while you do the deed sets the mood and tempo, and it also covers up gasps, moans, and screams (which is key if you live in a close-quarters apartment building like me). Here, you’ll find my favorite fast-tempo songs to blast when I’m having sex, along with a playlist you can stream for free while you read about my selections. Continue reading →

When it comes to matters of money in relationships the old saying,"I'm going to date and marry rich," should be thrown out of our collective consciousness and our relationship-speak as women (I do not speak for all women but marrying rich and perhaps not signing a pre-nup, as divorce has become an inevitability, is the way to golden living, so to speak). ATTENTION WOMEN: we are currently on the way to not only out-earning men but we have increasingly become the SOLE BREADWINNERS of our households (if you are engaged or married or even divorced). The traditional roles of who brings home the bacon has finally changed, a complete 180 in fact, from the way it has been since dinosaurs roamed the Earth. Can I get a loud "FINALLY"!  Continue reading →

One morning, this guy, John*, texted me out of the blue. John is a friend of one of my best friends, and he was thinking about moving out to southern California, which is where I go to school. My friend put John in contact with me last November, so he could ask me questions about the area. He was little flirty at the time, which I thought was kind of inappropriate because I knew he had a girlfriend, but I brushed it off as harmless. Continue reading →

For the past few years, my friend Ash has been completely infatuated with a straight girl named Nicole. The two are close friends, but it’s obvious (at least from an outsider’s point of view) that a relationship is never going to happen. Ash has confessed her feelings to Nicole on multiple occasions, and usually, this causes Nicole to get unreasonably upset and say some pretty awful things. She deliberately hurts Ash by leading her on and toying with her emotions, and though all of this leaves Ash emotionally damaged and defeated, she keeps going back for more. Continue reading →

I've noticed a shift in my Facebook news feed over the past couple of years. Where I used to only see pictures of kids holding solo cups at fraternities, I now see engagement ring photos (a girl from my high school class just got engaged this morning), wedding albums, and pictures of newborn babies. My mother used to always tell me (like a broken record), "Do not get pregnant! Get your Bachelors degree, then you can do whatever you want."   Continue reading →