July 1, 2013
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The Bachelor(ette): Can You Have Feelings For More Than One Person At A Time?
Full disclosure: I genuinely enjoy watching The Bachelorette. I'm not sure what that says about me, but say what you will, I love this show. 1 girl, 25 guys, endless possibilities. This picture is from last season's Bachelorette but the current season is on Week 5. Now I've seen multiple seasons of this show with multiple bachelors and bachelorettes (I've even seen the spinoff, Bachelor Pad). Every season I find myself wondering about the same things...Number one, what is it like to kiss multiple people in one day? On any given episode, the Bachelor(ette) will go on dates where he/she could kiss or make out with an upwards of 3 people in the same day! Kissing is one of my favorite things to do, but kissing a lot of people all within a short period of time sort of overwhelms me.
Number two, what is it like to have multiple people fighting for your affections? I don't think any guys have ever fought over me. I'm not sure if I'd want guys to fight over me either. Can you really imagine living in a mansion where 25 girls/guys are literally willing to do anything to spend even 5 minutes alone with you.
Number three (and the most important question), is it really possible to have sincere feelings for more than one person at a time? Once the season starts getting intense, the last couple of episodes start airing, people are throwing around "the L word" and feelings start getting hurt. I just cannot imagine being in a position where I could break multiple hearts all at once. In the end you know only one person will "win" the girl/guy and the other 24 will leave with really nothing but the experience.
What do you think readers? Is it possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time? Have you ever been in a situation where multiple people have fought over you? Have you ever kissed more than one person in a day?
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"What do you think readers?"I think it's disgusting."Is it possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time?"It is not possible to equally romantically love 2 people. One will always get more of your time and attention than another. That is pure logical and mathematical fact."Have you ever kissed more than one person in a day?"No, and I don't want to.This reminds me... yesterday I sat down in the living room and I accidentally caught about 5 minutes of Sex and the City before I built up the motivation to change the channel (I was focused on what I was eating rather than the tv until I lost my appetite). One of the women JUST got done having sex with a guy and was leaving his apartment when she ran into a guy on the street she liked and started talking to/flirting with him. All that came to mind was "Less than 5 minutes ago there was a dick inside of you and you're already hitting on another guy.". I mean, would he have been so flirtatious with her if he had known that? Like, literally, she still has the previous guy's sweat and other bodily fluids all over and inside of her and she's standing face to face with another guy and flirting with him. It's just... fucking gross and disrespectful.
I only think 1 out of 25 of the guys are cute, so it isn't that hot to watch them making out or whatever if I don't find the couple appealing. she eliminated him because he didn't make a move.but have you seen his abs: I'd make a move on him first because I have the control to get him and I think he's sooooo cute.http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/doug-clerget
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Doug did have an incredible body haha but I had a crush on Jef from episode one all the way to the end!
ah you're 21. let me give you some advice. the people on the bachelorette don't like all the people they kiss, or maybe they have physical attraction, but not complete chemistry. they kiss for television. everything they do is for television. that's why most couples on tv do not end up together for the rest of their life. some do, such as my favorite reality dating show... crocodile jack.. or something like that. you can have more than 1 person fighting for you, and you can like more than 1 person at a time. I have experienced this 3 times in my life, but there have always been only 2 candidates. but guys have egos. they have more pride than women do. they will not keep fighting for you if they think they can lose. they would rather go with someone they think they can win. that's why usually beautiful women are single more than average looking women. thus, 2 or more guys fighting for you will dwindle down to 1. they would rather not have competition. I would think that like animals, males compete with each other for a female's attention. and when one emerges victorious, he will be very proud. but I have never seen this or experienced this in terms of fighting with another man for a woman's affections. but I have seen men try very hard to "win." but I think we are more civilized than animals. the other guy doesn't want to be the loser. so how do you avoid being labelled the loser? you don't fight. but there must be guys out there who are very competitive with dating. I think I have been lucky to avoid them. as for your feelings, I think you should always love one person more than the other. or the way you feel about one, is different from the way you feel about the other. one brings out a side in your or appeals to one part of you. while the other guy appeals to another part of you. thus, it can be hard to choose. but if you really reflect carefully, you'll see one obviously comes out on top.
Yes to all of them. It's not as fun as it looks.
Is it possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time?Yes, but I believe someone can have different feelings for each person.Have you ever been in a situation where multiple people have fought over you? Yes. Have you ever kissed more than one person in a day?Yes. It was a drunken night gone terribly wrong.
I think it is possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time, however, the feelings toward each individual are different. To really water down the concept I'd say your feelings towards guy A might be "I love you because you watch The Bachelorette with me" while feelings towards guy B might be "I love you for some other quality that guy A doesn't have". I think when feelings are felt for multiple people at the same time the root is that each don't have what the other has. If anyone were perfect, maybe the possibilities for having feelings for different people at once would be diminished.
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - My sentiments. Exactly. We must be, like, life experience doppelgangers.
@PrincessPowers@xanga - Haha, yes! Except, I have to admit, I get really bothered by the sight of blood. O_O I couldn't handle anything medical, ever.
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - And I don't do guns. I mean, we can't be EXACTLY the same, or everyone would pick up on it.
@PrincessPowers@xanga - Hehehe, lol. Interesting things to be different about- blood and guns.
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - If you think about it, it makes perfect sense: The healer and the fighter. I'm half convinced we are demi-goddesses now.
@PrincessPowers@xanga - The demi-goddess fighter? I'll take it.
Hi AlexHow are you?
What do you think readers? I hate reality shows...Is it possible to have feelings for more than one person at a time? Feelings, yes. Especially when you're dating. However, I think it's only possible to be in love with one person at a time. At least, that's the way it is with meHave you ever been in a situation where multiple people have fought over you? Yes, but I've always been choosy about who I talk to (in terms of dating) and they could fight all they want, I'm telling them straight up if they don't fit the bill. I hate it when people waste time, especially on me. Have you ever kissed more than one person in a day?spin the bottle doesn't count, I assume?
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