July 15, 2013
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The Moment When You Know
There comes a point in every relationship when you just know. You either know that the person you're with is the person you will be with forever, or you know that it will never work out. I recently had my moment.Last night I had a tiny little taste of what life after school with Andrew will be like. After work and the gym I headed over to Andrew's house to work on my blog posts while he relaxed and played Xbox. I laid on the couch with my laptop and he sat in a chair by the TV, and even though we weren't physically close, we still chatted while we did separate things.
At one point, Andrew had even mentioned that the situation we were in looked exactly like what is in our future (although we were missing the puppy we're both dying for). It's nice to know that the two of us can be content and satisfied without having to be completely focused on each other.
It was also reassuring to know that we can be comfortable enough around each other just to enjoy each other's company and not need constant attention. In that moment, I was sure that Andrew is the person I want to spend my life with. Not because we were on an extravagant date or having really hot sex. Because the only person on the planet I want to do nothing with and be happy is him.
Have you had the moment where you just "know"? What were you doing?
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Maybe that's the point ^ They can do meaningless things together, and it's still special. My moment was when my SO dropped me off at my house (we were still long distance at the time) and left back to his house. I thought I was handling it well, being apart for who knows how long until next time, until my mom asked "Do you miss him?" and I just burst into tears. I realized that I did miss him. I missed him because he had treated me so well while I was there, something simple that I sadly wasn't used to. I missed how simple it was to just fall into a routine with him, how he brought stability into my life, how he had a sense of humor and understood mine. I think that flood of emotion was the moment for me. I'm not sure if I realized that we were forever at that point, but I did realize that I was falling in love with him and really didn't expect it.
That's cute, albeit meaningless.I "knew" once. Hell, for quite a while she was more certain than I was.I hope it stays that way for you. It's an awesome feeling.
@xcrownedhopeless - That's not what I meant, but still true.
idk, i kind of have to agree with zion here. everything is fine and dandy till shit hits the fan. how many people do you think get married thinking "i'm planning on getting a divorce in the next 10 years"?not to rain on your parade, or anything. i've just observed that life has a way of not always doing things the way you want.
I had that moment when I "knew" um, before there was even a relationship, and it was never a relationship. This feeling was that "long lasting" feeling. I didn't pass it up even though I knew what the answer was going to be. I didn't care that it shocked him that I said such things considering what he confessed to me. I told him that it had to mean something that I was able to say such things effortlessly with him, while with other guys I had hugest crushes on, I never told them at all about liking them but I was able to with him.After all these ten million people I've been meeting after him, I still get that it's "him" feeling and I don't care what he says about his life now. He'll figure it out in a few years down the line that I was right all along. I figure if all my bad predictions are always right about someone and it always comes true with the way I predict, then this one good feeling that I only have about one person is true as well. I've never been wrong with a bad prediction. It's funny how I can predict a demise, but never something positive. It gets rather irking. So the one positive feeling I have, I know it's true even if it may not seem like it right now, and I'm not going to question myself over it no matter how rude people want to be to me about it they just don't get my situation and that's why they're rude.
I've felt that way at least twice but never about anyone I was actually able to be with. Not much worse than realizing you're crazy about someone but they don't share the feelings or for whatever reasons it just won't work. It makes you wonder how often in one life you can feel that sure about something. Third times the charm perhaps?
My SO knew really early. I think that for guys it's like that-- the best relationships come when the man in the relationship KNOWS without convincing. I only knew when I said Yes. But I could have pictured it clearly long before that.
I knew when he and I had sex for the first time and we got lost in each other's eyes purely by accident. I've been in love with him ever since, but I have NO idea if it meant to him what it did to me.. feelings are just feelings, especially that euphoric feeling of being in love. it isn't real, its a chemical reaction in your brain. Luckily I'm smart enough to know that, and I'm looking for actual compatibilities (religion, finances, general morals...) that agree with my feelings. But congrats on your relationship, sounds like you guys are happy. that's always a beautiful thing.
It might sound weird, but I have had that moment several times with my current boyfriend.Every time we're alone and we're just like we are with other people, each time he pauses a video game he's really into just to message me even when I know he's playing, and the things he says. There are more moments I could describe but yes. The first moment was very early on in our relationship so I chalked it up to first date things but they kept happening.Before our first date I knew how much I wanted to meet him and spend time with him that wasn't online, and on that date I felt an extremely strong connection to him. On our second date we talked about the first date and we still talk about the past dates and even when we just hang out he said he considers that a "date" which hit me hard.I'm constantly reminded this is the man I want to spend my life with.
I had a knowing moment with my ex-husband. I knew it would never work out but I still married him. Yeah, I'm a dumbass.
I knew once. But I didn't really know and it sucked.
@flawsnall@xanga - What happened?
It may seem silly, but the moment it began to click together for me was the moment my husband took my favorite pair of flipflops and washed them because they had footprints on them and I was embarrassed to wear them, but didn't want to get rid of them because they were the most comfortable pair of shoes ever.
How? Because he took the time to do something which utterly discussed him to make me happy. It showed me that he really cared. It may seem silly to you, but it was a big moment for me. 
He scrubbed them so hard. He almost got the footprints off! 
I knew he was the only one for me when he taught me to slow dance in his grandmother's kitchen during the week towards Christmas. I had never danced before, and I wanted to learn for prom. He was so patient, understanding, and lovable. He didn't laugh when I stepped on his toes, and he didn't make fun of my awkwardness and slouch. He accepted me for me; even though I didn't learn much that day due to my clumsiness, on prom night, he took me out on the dancefloor and held me close and danced with me, even if I looked embarrassing. He really dropped everything to be with me, and he showed it by loving me for both my perfections and imperfections. We've had our troubles in this relationship, and he still sticks around no matter how complicated it gets; I believe everyone deserves that.
We were rearranging our bedroom, and as my stuff was getting all mixed in with his, I realized that there was no more "mine" and "his" but just "ours". It was comforting to know that I wouldn't have to worry about getting all my stuff if we ever broke up because I just knew we weren't going to. Our wedding is next May!
You 'know' nothing.
Actually I never had the knowledge but I finally came with the understanding. I have been with my boyfriend for seven years. And I assumed that it will end one day, because hey, everything has an end to it. But then I had a life changing experience and finally understood the purpose of our relationship. I guess then, I knew I was in for good.
I've many of those "moments" with a handful of different guys. Only to eventually come to see that they indeed were just "moments".
It is a great feeling. Blessings on your future together.
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