I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He is my best friend and he knows almost everything about me. But here's the thing: I'm very
ladylike around him. As in, I might occassionally burp (cutely) but I have yet to do
anything else around him,
if you know what I'm saying.
You can probably tell by the way I'm avoiding using the word "fart" that I'm not trying to do so around my boyfriend. That's just not the way I want him to see me, even if it is a part of life and everyone does it.
It's inevidable that someday I will have to do it around him when we start living together, but I don't know when that will ever seem appropriate. I don't want to suddenly become Shrek one day.
How do you handle any bodily functions around your significant other? How long were you together before you felt comfortable doing that?
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I've been best friends with my boyfriend for over 5 years, and dating for 19 months. Living together for about a month now.Basically, he saw me at worst, most unladylike loooong before we started dating or sleeping together. I was (and still am) one of the guys. I fart, I burp, I wear no make-up and I get drunk or stoned off my ass and eat insane amounts of food at 3 AM. For some odd reason he still finds me attractive. Lucky me.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years, going on 5. The majority of the time we were together, we were in undergrad and spent about 99% of our waking hours together. In the beginning stages of our relationship I tried to hide things like that, but once we moved in together last year it was pretty much impossible. Your boyfriend will understand that first and foremost you are a person, and all people fart, burp, etc. At the end of the day, he may walk into a bathroom after you've gone, see you without make-up, or eat at a restaurant and hear you burp by accident, but I'm sure after 3 years, it shouldn't change the way he feels. I think you should ease into it when you're comfortable, but trust me, once everything is out in the open, it makes life and love much easier!!
I've never dated a guy for longer than a year, and I'm glad to know that I could go at least 3 years without doing that around him.
if it is one of those non-smelly air farts after drinking soda, then I won't be as hesitant to let one out. if it is one of those pre-poop farts where it stinks like shit because that's exactly what it is, then I would appreciate that everyone, not just a s.o., would be courteous and try to hold that type of air ruining fart until they've closed the bathroom door or at least someplace where another person or other people aren't nearby to collectively smell that with you. how rude! sometimes I can't hold it in and the fart is spontaneous, so shitty farts happen then whoever is in the room will ask the rhetorical question of, "what's that smell?!?" and I'll look puzzled, because it is just one of those obvious things that don't need to be blown out of proportion with a dramatic reaction, so all anyone can do is wait until the air clears. I don't like hearing a diarrhea bomb going off in the bathroom while I'm trying to watch tv, so maybe let the water in the sink run to drown out some of the noise. thanks.
I don't fart in front of people if I can help it. Not even my family. Go into another room or something. I mean, if it accidentally happens then it happens, but if I don't fart in front of co-workers or strangers then why should I fart in front of my fiancee? It's just common courtesy. (Likewise I don't burp in front of people)
I don't fart in front of anyone. The only time people hear me fart is if I'm asleep and it's out of my control. My boyfriend told me I farted on him in my sleep a couple weeks ago. OH WELL. I think guys (at least the ones I've dated...) like to hear their girlfriend fart. Especially if she is usually very ladylike... makes them feel closer to you.Sidenote- he also walks into the bathroom when I'm in there, without knocking. I think he's hoping to catch me in the act of a giant dump.
I don't fart in front of anyone. The only time people hear me fart is if I'm asleep and it's out of my control. My boyfriend told me I farted on him in my sleep a couple weeks ago. OH WELL. I think guys (at least the ones I've dated...) like to hear their girlfriend fart. Especially if she is usually very ladylike... makes them feel closer to you.Sidenote- he also walks into the bathroom when I'm in there, without knocking. I think he's hoping to catch me in the act of a giant dump.
I burp a lot, I don't know why, but I never felt that I had to control myself in front of my boyfriend (of 2 years)...even when we started dating. He never called me disgusting or gross, because it's natural. I understand a lot of people don't like the idea of girls burping, farting, or pooping, b u t it happens. If a guy didn't like the fact that I burped or farted, then obviously that guy wasn't for me. I don't think I have to control my burping or farting when most guys don't. If that doesn't make me ladylike, screw it. I'm not here to impress, and my boyfriend doesn't mind I really don't understand how one can be close to their SO yet hide things as simple as burping and farting. We all do it!
@Pure_Taint@xanga - Amen. Same here!
im not going to lie. throughout my entire life, i have been a sleep farter. i mean, i cant help it! its out of my control! im asleep! and as a young adult, that was my biggest fear when i had my first boyfriend and slept over his house for the first time. it was awfully uncomfortable not being able to fall asleep because i was holding it in and when i would finally fall asleep, i guess i would be so nervous about it even in my slumber that if i felt myself fart, i would jolt awake in an 'oh god, is he awake?! did he hear that?!' panic! it was ridiculous. but, he never once said anything about it to me. but theres no way he didnt ever notice it, im sure. and though our relationship only lasted for 6 months [and we remain friends] and thus werent in love or anything, he still saw me as human, im sure, and never brought it up or was openly offended by it. shrug.now with my current boyfriend of going-on-3-years, who i live with, i try my best to hold 'em in during the day and just go to the bathroom or another room when it gets to be too uncomfortable to hold in, but i have slipped a time or two. he knows that its a human function and so what can ya do? but then we come back to my problem of being a sleep farter. thats kind of just something we joke about now and then, because we're comfortable enough with each other that we arent trying to impress each other constantly like when youre first dating.i also shared a room with my best friend for about a year. so...her and my boyfriend sometimes make jokes about my sleep farting, but she never said anything about it until a couple years later when my boyfriend brought it up.
i proudly shit in public bathrooms and in my own even when others are around, and i have a studio. in fact i mentioned recently that i shit with the door open (ajar) sometimes when i have girls over, as a demonstration of how close i feel to her. true story. i also shower after shitting when i'm at home because i'd rather wash out my ahole than wipe with tp. sooo much cleaner. i can confidently let a girl go near my butthole afterward. also, i shit like 4-6 times a day, and they're all actually pretty sizable shits too...in fact i was on the shitter when reading this article. my friends say it's because i have a high fiber diet. they also say my shits don't smell.true story.
I don't care about burping, I'll burp when around my boyfriend if I need to.. but in saying that I rarely need to burp, but when I do, the bf could care less. Peeing is no big deal either. He can also see me drool, sleep with my mouth open, etc... it's all good. The only thing I refuse to do with my boyfriend is poop or fart. He doesn't poop or fart around me either. We've been together for nearly two years... I still have no desire to poop or fart around him.
With how opinionated, outspoken and, well... prolific I am on here, you'd probably imagine I'm loud, obnoxious, and inconsiderate in real life.The truth is I'm like a ninja that is silent when alone and very considerate and polite around others. I think it has to do with hunter genetics. Not only will a girl never hear my bodily functions, she won't see or smell them either. It doesn't bother me when girls just let it out, and to be honest it can actually be kind of cute and ties into feeling comfortable around you, but as for myself I have complete and total control of my bodily functions and I never experience any urgency. My body is strange. I can hold just about anything in for hours (or even a day) and it doesn't bother me at all. So if I were to do something in the vicinity of another person it would be deliberately... but of course I don't have a gross sense of humor, so that's out of the question.Besides talking (which I actually don't do much of, I'm the quiet, confident type), the only other thing I know of is that I've been told I snore a little, but that's only when I'm completely exhausted and in a deep sleep. :
One of us is usually shitting while the other is in the shower or brushing their teeth, and this started within a few months of dating. We're engaged now. We're REALLY close lol.
I let it all out when I'm at home, don't care who judges.^ Person above, wow. The only exception is our #2 business is strictly our private personal business; i cannot imagine taking a shower while *anyone* is taking a dump next to me or vice versa!
Been married for three years now and I have never farted in front of my husband. That's just something I like to keep private. Lol.
I used to be squeamish about farting, burping or basic toiletry stuff with my bf.All that went out the window when he busted into the bathroom (door is wonky) and saw me doing #2. I was appalled, embarrassed, and angry. But then afterwards i was fine lol. Once that door opened (no pun intended), i wasnt afraid to show all sides of me. I mean if he's seen erythang, whats left to be afraid?Honestly i find this pretty liberating and it makes us feel closer. How often do you let ppl hear your farts or see you take a piss? Probably never except with family. So it adds a sense of intimacy to the equation. I really suggest ppl do this early on in the relationship - it'll make you guys feel really close really soon.
The guy I dated for 7 years...we were close enough that I could have been sick and shit ON him, and i wouldn't have been embarrassed. There are pros to having that level of intimacy with someone, and the lack of shame....but it DEFINITELY affected my perception of him and my level of attraction for him. Guys seem to think being gross is funny. It's not.My current s/o of 3 years...burping is the extent of our bodily function intimacy. I like it that way. I've got him thoroughly convinced I don't poop.
Ew it's the WORST when someone poops in the bathroom while you're showering! All the stink gets attached to the steam. blech.
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