July 17, 2013
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Pregnant & On the Prowl
Sometimes I just like to have the TV on as background noise when I'm home alone, and the other day I happened to overhear parts of an episode of Pregnant & Dating. I was intrigued, so I sat down and ended up watching about 4 more episodes. Not only are these women who are navigating the dating waters, but they're doing it while pregnant! I couldn't imagine a more stressful situation to be going through while pregnant!A lot of the women on the show were dealing with men who either didn't want to be a part of the baby's life, or who did but didn't want to further pursue a relationship with the baby's mother. I found the idea of dating while pregnant really interesting because anyone you introduce to a young child could have profound ramifications. To date while pregnant is to invest a certain level of trust into someone who will inevitably be a part of that child's life.
I also began thinking about dating while you have children in general. My parents got a divorce when I was very young. My mother did date, but out of respect to me, she never brought anyone back to our house or introduced anyone to me. She wanted me to have a stable upbringing and didn't want different men coming and going from our house and confusing me.
What do you all think about dating while pregnant? Would you be reluctant to date someone who has children or would that not matter to you? Ladies, if you were single and pregnant, would you consider entering the dating world? What would you all think about dating someone who was pregnant?
Comments (8)
I would rather not date someone who has kids because having to deal with someone's ex sucks enough as it is, but having to deal with someone's baby daddy would suck even more. You can get rid of someone's ex, but someone's baby momma/daddy will always be around. If I was pregnant and the father didn't want to be with me, I would date. I would try to have an open marriage though. What matters is that both parents are on good terms for the child's sake and both parents are involved in its life.
no way. I wouldn't let a strange man that I just met and dating touch my belly. I'd be very protective of my unborn kid, so having sex while pregnant with a stranger is out of the question. it would feel like an invasion of privacy and personal space if I had sex while pregnant, so no. having sex with the actual dad of the baby is different, but if we didn't work out, then that's that. I'd probably date/sex after the baby is born, but I'd still be very wary, because I have a child to take care of, not that I can't date after I have a kid. dating wouldn't be my priority. I'd probably wait until my kid is a little more grown up to date. I can't say for sure. I don't know why I care so much when I don't even really want kids. I'm worried about something that I don't even want to/care to do, which is get pregnant/have a kid/kids. I'm more likely to go shopping to decorate my baby's room into a dream new born baby room than spend time dating. whatever works for whoever.
would not date someone who has kids at my age now (24 )nor would I date while I am pregnant (I just think it's ridiculous to be honest)lets say for whatever reason later on in my life I do get knocked up and end up a single parent. I would not date for until the kid is 4 and even then I'd probably do what your mom did and keep my dating and family life separate
sounds pretty fucking stupid.
Well if you can get a guy to buy you dinner with a giant baby belly, have at it. But I don't see how you could handle a brand new relationship and a brand new baby at the same time. Or why the guy would want you to. I would be suspicious of him.There's really two kinds of dating... dating for fun and dating for marriage. If you're dating for marriage, you shouldn't hide that from your children. If you intend to be with a man long-term, he has to be a part of your WHOLE life. I have children, and kept them separate from the men I wasn't serious about and made sure that they spent time with men I was serious about. You need to see how the relationship works from ALL angles. I find it funny the girls on here who know exactly what kind of mother they would be, to the exact age at which their child would be when they started dating, or who they want in their child's life. Life is ever changing, as are we. The post didn't even ask about dating with CHILDREN, but you had to throw in your hypothetical two cents there anyway.
@scribbles - I'm glad I'm not the only one what thinks that. I feel exactly the same way you do! It's ridiculous. But I guess there's wierder stuff going on in the world. I suck at dating now and I'm not even pregnant, how the hell do those women find men to date them? haha
Why people have kids in general is a mystery to me. So I don't have any right to judge, because I doubt I would ever be pregnant in the first place.But in my opinion, you need to stop dating until your baby is born, and maybe even a few years after that. Because your baby needs to come first, and you can't invest yourself fully in a new relationship if you are getting ready for a baby.That's what I would do, if I was at all into the idea of having children and I didn't have a wonderful boyfriend already. =/xX Ame ~*~ Hana Xx
i think these peopel need to get their priorities straight - oh wait, that's probably what they're doing - looking for a sugar daddy to support the coming kid cuz they probably can't afford it alone.
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