July 18, 2013
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I Want You to Want Me: A Case of Insecurity?
Last night, my friends and I gathered at my friend Mary's* house to celebrate her roommate's birthday. It was a nice mixture of my friends from high school and Mary's friends from college. We all settled down and began discussing their friend from school, Sam*. I had met him a couple times but only after hearing Mary and her roommate's opinion of him. They said he was the type of guy to want someone to like him, even though he did not like them back.
I had never heard of someone specifically being described like this, but I have definitely seen this type of behavior. They strive to make someone like them for absolutely no good reason (as far as I can tell). I suppose this behavior is not entirely uncommon, but Sam was particularly bad.
The second I met him, I could tell he was insecure. However, he played it off by overtly acting like a douche (for lack of a better word). He got in girls faces and teased them but in a clearly flirty way. Once the girl would reciprocate, though, he would immediately act defensive. It was as if the girl came up to him and started hitting on him out of the blue. He even told one of my friends, that it wasn't his fault that she liked him, and she should really stop trying to flirt with him so hard.
Although Sam might be a fairly extreme case, I have seen this before. I have even had people admit to me that they want a specific person to be interested in them even though they do not like that person back. I understand that people like to be liked, but this type of behavior is particularly odd (and rude) to me.
Why would a person want someone to like them if they do not return those feelings? Why not find someone you actually like? Have you ever tried to make someone you weren't interested in like you?
Comments (7)
urrgh, his mustache is creepy. he has pretty eyes though. almost looks like a woman crossdressing. minis the costumey stache, he could be sexy. the stache adds too much of a douche effect and repulses me.that's what you call a douchebag player.
Sorry, that very handsome picture of Clark Gable has my complete attention
Wow, that guy definitely sounds like a douchebag. I mean, I'm a flirt in the sense that I talk to EVERYONE. Guy, girl, older people- if you're friendly to me, I'm friendly right back, and I've been called out as a flirt for it, but really I just enjoy the company of people and listening to their stories. So I suppose I "flirt" even though I have no intention of becoming more than friends with a person, and I think that's almost normal for a lot of people. But this guy? I would have punched him if he said that to me.
I completely agree, insecurity all the way. I used to have a guy friend that would literally put down, humiliate, and hurt any person he came in contact with.. when the person "didn't catch that it was just a joke" or when they didn't "lighten up" about his comments, it was yet another hole for him to attack on. This guy, and most assuredly every guy that acts like this, is undoubtedly insecure, although his outward appearance personifies him as the most confident guy in the world. He cheats on his girlfriends, and makes them (and every woman) feel so completely insecure, yet loved just enough, that they feel the only option, the most honorable option is to stay with this man.. douchebags, butt-heads, dirt... this is my opinion of the kind of guys who are sooo insecure that they must force every single person to like them, or at least admire them.
I thought this would be about Cheap Trick. I am disappointed.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - That is Clark Gable, of Gone With The Wind fame..An actor who is no longer living.
@greatredwoman@xanga - celebrity or not, mustaches creep me out. Elvis' hairdo is more to my liking than the side part hairdo. nothing against clark, but why would they post a pic of a respected celeb to represent the jerk in the blog shouldn't it be charlie sheen?!
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