July 20, 2013
-
But Things Like That Don't Happen to Me
The other day I was Skyping with my friend from school, Nancy*. She is preparing to study abroad in Europe in the fall, and I was asking her if she was excited—particularly about the boys. (We go to fairly small liberal arts schools, so the boy pool can feel quite restrictive at times.) She replied that she would love to have a fun fling with some European guy, but that type of thing simply didn't happen to her.
She claimed that those stories of elaborate romantic gestures or summer flings that we, as women, always hear about only happen to certain types of girls, and she was not one of them. She did not know exactly how to characterize these certain women. They were not necessarily the most beautiful (although they were usually quite pretty) or the nicest or the most deserving. There was just something about these girls that kept the boys coming back for more—in awe-inspiring, over-the-top romantic, story-worthy ways.
While Nancy admitted she would love a romantic fling in Europe, she was not getting her hopes up. I told her that maybe that type of self-doubting thinking was hindering her from getting her own fairy tale story. I wanted her to remain positive. "Haley, it's pathetic how much I've wanted it to happen," she replied, "and I still want it to, but hoping for it just hurts too much."
Do you know of anyone who that type of stuff always happens to? Have you ever been that person? Is it understandable that Nancy is giving up on her dreams of a European fling, or should she keep her hopes up?
Comments (6)
that type of stuff never happens to her because she has zero confidence. i've had those types of "romantic european flings" because I acted confidently, approached men, chatted them up, charmed their pants off and had a great time. you don't become the president of the united states sitting at home wishing really hard and pathetically for it to happen.
I had a friend from high school exactly like that. She was confident and horny (which is all your friend needs), but also not very attractive. You don't have to be attractive to get laid if you also have a vagina. Her rich father would take her traveling all over Europe, and she'd have multiple flings in every location. On a related note, she also had sex with more than two dozen males in the first half of her first semester of college. I think the word we're looking for here is SLUT. Although it's cute when females use the word "fling" in lieu of casual sex, as if the meaning is unchanged.
i went abroad to costa rica and hooked up with a few people - all you need to do is be confident, feel cute, and be interested in learning about them. that's how all of mine started - i was so curious with everything around me, and the guys were the ones who were interested in giving answers.. and some more than that, hahah
is it "*nancy"? or "haley"?oooopss
She just needs confidence. If she wants it to happen, she has to make it happen.@A - ...Haley is the author, Nancy is the friend.
So why does one need "flings" to prove one's feminity? and what about the diseases that one can pick up in a foreign country from strange men, who lay in wait for careless little American girls? There are a lot of things that should be taken into consideration before one starts to "sleep around,"....overseas!!
Comments are closed.