I find it odd when guys I just started speaking to want to add me on Facebook (although I don't have it anymore). To give you a better picture, these are guys I just started talking to whether it be online or offline, but it's possible this connection could eventually die off.
Maybe people see Facebook like any other social network and add anyone they wish. However, for me, Facebook was something with a very limited amount of people on it. So, when a guy wants to add me on Facebook, it's as if it is something private that only friends should see, and these guys are not there yet.
What do you guys think? Would it be considered a red flag if a person wants to add you on Facebook in early stages of casual dating?
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you're a freak, i'd never date someone like you who overthought things like this
@accumulations@xanga - Ha ha ha.
I only friend people I had met in person-- and since I've gotten older and have less casual time online, I rarely get around to adding/finding people on facebook anymore. I have a friend, however, who friends everyone, and goes out of her way to find random people on facebook for networking. Some people though, are very quick with the friend requests. It doesn't bother me too much-- though I automatically filter my friends so they are censored from facebook information.
I add someone when I'm just getting to know them. I might even delete them later on, especially if we never talk again. But the point of seeing their Facebook is seeing the "private" front that they let others see. So, for example, I may be talking to this guy who seems really awesome and sweet. But then I add him on Facebook and I see all his profile pictures are of him grabbing the asses of multiple women, constantly posts status's like, "FUCK BITCHES, GET MONEY!" and maybe his most recent likes are Kanye West and herpes. Facebook tells you a lot about whether or not you should get to know a person.
It's a popularity contest. People "friend" anyone they know the name of. I've gotten invites from people that I didn't really get along with in high school.
Well I would be disappointed if they did not add me - before dating me if possible. Facebook offers free chat facilities and a lot of other convenient things. I don't post anything I am ashamed of on there, and I'm not ashamed to have my friendships made public.
It depends with some guys. In order to avoid the awkward in-person encounters in case he defriends me early on, and I see them again, I wouldn't add them in the beginning. With my long time crush who I have known for over a year or so...I first added him to my dog profile, Lol, but as for my regular profile where all of my friends are on, it took me at least 8 months since I first met him to add him. Yes, 8 months. I kid you not. I wasn't sure how he'd react to my raunchy statuses so I was hesitant, but I was like screw it and added him. He added me back, haha. We had a joke and said ah, you passed the co-worker test. well...the rest his history because we don't have each other on anymore since we're not talking. if we were still friends we'd still be added on the list.This other co-worker I have, I added him right away and he accepted, but I didn't find him a big deal since he's just a friend add.This other guy when I was talking to him from POF, friended me on FB the same day i asked if he had one. When we met a day later and I didn't give him what he wanted he deleted me, I was like wow wtf. We ended up hanging out for a week-ish after he defriended me. I wasn't sure how to react at first to him if i saw him out but it didn't matter to me because i couldn't trust him to be in a relationship so it was fine for what it was and i didn't care that he defriended me so soon just after a day of adding him.my fling of 4+ years....we'd deleted, re-add, block/unblock all year long and i finally left him blocked for good. so there's that. it depends but from now on, I'm waiting a while to add somebody and not going to add them right away unless they have many mutual friends with me which i find okay. if it's just random joes with no connections, i'd wait.
I use the lists: friends, acquaintances
Being 'friends' on facebook is not the same as getting married... jeesh... be friends... what's the problem with that???It's not a big deal.
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