July 25, 2013

• When We're Together We're Together, When We're Not We're Not

  

  The other day, I was talking to my friend, Tori*, about her on-again off-again long-distance relationship. Her boyfriend was getting ready to leave to go study abroad for the fall semester, and she admitted she was sad and scared. For the entirety of freshman year of college, they did the long-distance thing as they went to school in different states. The following summer, they realized that neither of them was able to fully immerse themselves into college life because they were thinking about their SO. They decided on a new arrangement: when they were at school or in different places they would be broken up and when they were in the same place they would be together. 

  Now that she and her boyfriend had spent some time together at home at the start of the summer, Tori was getting anxious about her boyfriend leaving. However, it was not for the reasons I would have thought. Of course Tori was sad to see her boyfriend go. She said she felt amazing with him during their time at home together. 

  However, Tori was mostly concerned that she would start feeling the same way she did at school without him. After several weeks of being broken up at school, Tori slowly but surely started to forget her boyfriend. She became more and more interested in hooking up with other guys. Now, hooking up with other people is completely allowed in their arrangement (when they are apart). However, Tori was growing concerned that if they keep this type of relationship up, one of them might eventually not want to get back together when they are in the same place. 
  
  Should Tori talk to her boyfriend about this? Do you think their arrangement is a good one? Have you ever tried a relationship like this?
  
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