It seems when I was younger, when it came to dating guys and girls alike both had a specific "type."  Be it a redhead with a curvy figure or a tall, broad blond-haired blue-eyed Adonis, we all had our preferences.  As we grew and matured, so did our types. Not only should "the one" have certain physical characteristics, but he/she should also have a college degree, enjoy hiking and volunteering, oh, and must love dogs.

That was then.  

It seems, at least for me, that the older I get, the more I develop my "antitype."  As one person put it, "I don't know what I want, but I do know what I don't want."  And while I've tried to keep an open mind in the past, I am finding this to be more and more true.  There are certain characteristics that are deal breakers for me.  Moreover, I find that I'm not even compatible with some people as friends.  It's been an interesting process for sure, and it makes me wonder who I will wind up with someday.  But for now, I know who I will be avoiding:  Continue reading →

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Whether it be with relationships, friendships, or complete strangers, I've definitely noticed that the people that I have dealt with usually have a difficult time in admitting they crossed the line in an argument.  Instead of being the bigger person, they either continue to fuel the fire or eventually ignore the friend/significant other they had that argument with. Depending on who the person is and if they meant a lot to me, I have before apologized, even if I know I didn't have to.  

If someone meant nothing to me, I'd let them continue to ignore me.  If I knew I was never in the wrong in the first place and they just blew things way out of proportion, I refuse to apologize after what they put me through in that situation. Continue reading →

I find it odd when guys I just started speaking to want to add me on Facebook (although I don't have it anymore). To give you a better picture, these are guys I just started talking to whether it be online or offline, but it's possible this connection could eventually die off.

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The other day I was Skyping with my friend from school, Nancy*. She is preparing to study abroad in Europe in the fall, and I was asking her if she was excited—particularly about the boys. (We go to fairly small liberal arts schools, so the boy pool can feel quite restrictive at times.) She replied that she would love to have a fun fling with some European guy, but that type of thing simply didn't happen to her.  Continue reading →

I like loud. I like driving down the street with my music set to “douchebag,” and I turn up the volume on Skyrim until I can hear every noise in the dungeons. (If it’s late, I will curb these behaviors a little bit. Windows go up, headphones go on. I’m not that inconsiderate.) I also really like loud sex. For me, the louder, the better. Continue reading →

Yesterday one of my best friends and I went to dinner with our friend from middle school, Alex*. Alex's older sister just got engaged, and she knows she should be happy for her. However, a little text that her sister's fiancée sent her is not making it easy.  Continue reading →

I wrote a while ago about how a lot of people from my high school class were getting engaged recently. I was chatting with a friend of mine over coffee the other day about how I couldn't imagine being proposed to right now at this point in my life. If my boyfriend proposed to me right this moment, I'd at least want to be engaged for a couple of years before taking the plunge. Actually if my boyfriend proposed to me right now, I'd pass out. But then I'd be excited after the initial surprise!

The movie The 5 Year Engagement was on HBO not long ago and it was actually pretty interesting. The couple in the movie, Emily Blunt and Jason Segel, at first said they would postpone their wedding a couple of years so Emily Blunt's character could do post-doctorate research or something along those lines. But as Blunt's career progressed (and as the title suggests), the engagement got longer and longer, the wedding date being pushed farther and farther away.

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The other day I was sitting by my friend's pool and we somehow got to talking about hairy legs. A friend of mine said she only really shaved her legs during the summer because during the other seasons, especially winter, she mostly wore pants or tights. I thought, "Hmm.. makes sense." Another friend of mine in the deep end of the pool shouted over to us that she shaved her legs all year round because her boyfriend thought it was gross if she didn't. 

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Until my sophomore year of college, I lived with my parents. I didn’t hate it, but they were never too keen on sleepovers (especially my mom, and especially when it came to boyfriends/girlfriends). As a result, countless nights were spent sending flirtatious texts to whoever I was dating or trying to date. Sometimes, the texts could get pretty steamy, and we would find ourselves turned on with no way of seeing each other. Well… there was one way to sort of see each other. And on these nights, I would be faced with a question: to send or not to send?   Continue reading →

Last night, my friends and I gathered at my friend Mary's* house to celebrate her roommate's birthday. It was a nice mixture of my friends from high school and Mary's friends from college. We all settled down and began discussing their friend from school, Sam*. I had met him a couple times but only after hearing Mary and her roommate's opinion of him. They said he was the type of guy to want someone to like him, even though he did not like them back.  Continue reading →