August 2, 2013

  • When You Assume...


    My friend Drew was talking to me about his friend Nathan the other day. Nathan is a good looking guy. There's no denying that. He is very charming, he's got a great sense of humor, and he portrays himself as a gentleman. He'll buy you drinks all night.

    He's very attentive and when you're talking to him, you get all of his attention. On the surface, Nathan is pretty close to the perfect guy when you first meet him. But what most girls who meet him at the bar don't know is that he's a real pro at what I'll call "hitting it and quitting it."


    He in no way is interested in a relationship. He's 24 and he really enjoys single life. He's become such a pro at picking women up at bars that he assumes any woman who goes back with him to his apartment is going to sleep with him, no questions asked. He even has supplies for the women to get ready for bed: clothes for her to sleep in, contact solution, hair ties, makeup remover, etc. Drew was describing this basket of supplies that Nathan keeps to me, and asked me if I thought it was considerate of him, or sleazy.

    I couldn't quite decide to be honest. If Drew had makeup remover and stuff like that at his house, because I know him and what a sweet guy he is, I would think it was considerate. But because I know Nathan 90% of the time has sexual motive, I can see these supplies as a ploy to get someone to stay overnight.

    What do you think? Is keeping contact solution, makeup remover, and things like that at your apartment considerate of the other person or sleazy? You all know what they say about assuming...

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Comments (11)

  • HAHAH um. woah. Knowing that someone has a "random hook-up sleepover survival kit" is a first for me. If he leads a girl into thinking it's any more than a one night stand, then I guess it's a little sleazy. BUT if these girls know they're just gettin' it for one night, I think that's pretty damn considerate. I think the pj's is kind of weird but make-up remover and hair ties? That's just kind of awesome. (Side note: I probably wouldn't sleep with someone with a kit like that. The chances they have the herp or AIDS totally skyrockets. Yuck.)

  • Ya know. I think that if someone wanted me just to get laid (especially if they just wanted to get laid), I would be really touched that he'd have supplies like contact solution or make up remover for me. ha ha. It's better than going with someone who just wanted to get laid and all they made me sleep in my skank wear. i hate waking up in the morning feeling like there's booze all over my face.Do you know if he keeps a blow dryer?

  • That's awesome. He should teach classes. If he's picking women up and they're going home with him 4 hours later, it's standard sex is going to be involved. Both parties know that. He's not pulling the wool over anyone's eyes.But to have things to make your brief time there more comfortable, that's pretty damn cool.

  • Lol... Idk why, but this post made me crack up a bit. I, personally, think considering the intentions of Nathan, having supplies ready for a girl that comes over to his apartment is pretty sleezy. But I have a thing against guys who create emotional ties with women with the ulterior motive of just hittin' it and quittin' it. I've seen too many hurt girls over that. And what's worse is that most men know this will hurt women beyond belief, yet don't care. And guys wonder why girls are so jaded nowadays...So yes, not a big fan of Nathan nor other guys who demonstrate similar behaviors as him...

  • it would be considerate if he had a brand new set of bedsheets, comforter, pillowcases, and a set of cashmere pajamas with sulley from monster's inc character furry slippers for me but not with that guy. the thought of going home with a stranger from a bar gives me the creepy crawlies. a ploy that might get me to go over to his place is if he says that he'll show me his dance & song cover for one of taeyang's songs. then I'll be the one to strip him buttnaked when one assumes that the innocent looking bunny is harmless until you find out that the bunny is a hybrid grizzly bear with adorable claws

  • My husband pointed out : this is in the plot from This Is War. 

  • its very nice of him actually. it'll be extra nice if he also carries a pair of glasses with prescription of -5. in case the woman is nearsighted and forgot to bring her glasses and is blind without her contacts. girls really commit most of the idiotic assumptions. i knew a girl who assumed after sleeping with a guy on the first date that he is looking to get married because he is persian and must have traditional mindset when it comes to marriage.

  • I really don't approve of one night stands for straight people unless one or both of them is sterile. Maybe if she's on birth control, using a diaphragm and spermicide, and they use a condom.... I'm bad at statistics.Having said that, his overnight kit is very considerate, actually. Plus it eliminates the "do I go home or stay the night?" concern that some women may have. Really, it's an invitation to stay the night after having sex. It's not the invitation to have sex - they're past that already. If you go home with someone after having just met them, especially at a bar, you know what's up. Sex is a safe assumption for him to be making at that point.

  • Before you even wrote 'sleazy', I would have used that description of him. Also, creepy comes to mind. With all of his one night stands, I hope he's not spreading more (like STDs) than these gals' legs...ughHe sounds pretty pathetic. But, so are the girls who fall for this charming devil...Sex the first time you meet someone??? sad

  • i'd totally go with sleazy. it gives me enough of an impression that he does it (bringing girls home to hit it and quit it) often enough to even dream up, put together and offer out a kit like that. call me strange but i'd also assume his partner count is way up as soon as i saw that he had PJs laid out for me, and contact solution. i'm not against one night stands, i've had my own, but if i walked into a place under the impression that the person i was about the screw had screwed (and was flaunting) dozens and dozens of girls before me, i'd leave. i already know i'm stepping into risky territory. i don't need to be reminded by seeing your "late date's complimentary overnight kit" 

  • Well he really is a pro! HAha, this made me laugh, but I can't help leaning toward considerate. IF he is probably going to get laid anyway, then these things just make it a more pleasant experience for the girl. However, the fact that he has gotten to that point of providing amenities for his random hookups... is sleazy. But that's my opinion, I'm sure he is glorified by others for his masterful techniques.

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