August 6, 2013

  • 40 Days of Dating


    "What do you do when you're tired of the prospect of dating?"

    Recently, a friend showed me http://fortydaysofdating.com. Basically two friends, both artists, who happen to be single at the same time, decided to date each other for 40 days and document the experiment. The experiment basically answers the question, "What happens when two people with polar opposite relationship philosophies date?" What results is an interesting look into the lives of these two people, as you see the ups and downs of a relationship from both sides. After every date, they fill out a questionnaire that recounts the details of their date and explains how both are feeling about themselves, about each other, and about the experiment. 

    There are 6 Rules:
    1. The experiment will last 40 days.
    2. They must go on at least 3 dates a week.
    3. They will see a couples therapist once a week.
    4. They will go on one weekend trip together. 
    5. They will fill out the questionnaire daily and document everything.
    6. They will not see, date, hookup, or have sex with anyone else during the course of the experiment. 

    Once you start reading the blog, it's absolutely addictive! I just finished Day Twenty-Seven today! Now that the experiment is nearing the end, I'm curious to see how it will all turn out. The experiment for me brought up a lot of questions about my friendships with the opposite sex and about the dynamics of my relationship. When you're in a relationship, you have no idea when it's going to end, which makes this experiment even more interesting. How much can you accomplish as a couple? Could you really develop feelings for someone, if you knew exactly when your relationship would end? I'm an optimist when it comes to other people's relationships and a realist when it comes to my own, so I'm rooting for them!

    What do you think? How productive do you think the experiment is? Do you think it's dangerous territory, mixing friendships and sex/feelings? Those of you who have heard of this experiment/read the blog, and those of you who haven't, what are your feelings about it?

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Comments (6)

  • I like how stereotypical it is. Girl is hopeless romantic, Boy is afraid of commitment.They should make a rom com out of it.

  • That sounds like an interesting experiment, although it borders on being an extremely cheesy romantic comedy in written form from the looks of it. Granted, I haven't read through it.

  • I think it's a clever publicity stunt. They should get a book out of it, some talk show spots, heck, probably a movie.Seems extreme to me that they see each other every day and date THREE times a week? Heck, who'd got time for that? And a couples therapist from day #2? Interesting, but I don't feel like it's going to reflect much on dating in the real world.

  • you can fall in love with anyone if you spend enough time with them and actively try to get to know them. for example - stockholm syndrome. this experiment sucks. 

  • I think its a wonderful idea.. I cant wait to read the blog ! 

  • I'm going to check out the blog.  Sounds interesting!

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