August 13, 2013

  • Why Do YOU Love ME?


    There is a little something I noticed when my girlfriend and I got back together: where is the reciprocity in a woman asking us why we love them?

    I noticed something pretty fishy... anytime a woman goes so far as to ask why they love me, I go so far as to actually list out ten reasons why I love them. I know a woman often gets worried as to the reasons a man likes them. Whether it is for sexual gratification, emotional convenience, or because she is something you'll never get again. What I did was hit her with ten specific reasons as to why she is the best thing that has ever happened to me right now, from her strength, honesty, cute smile to being a truly inspiring woman. She's a special lady. 

    Any man lucky enough to name more than three reasons why they love their girlfriends will surely see their girlfriends happy that they have been paying attention to them and the way they brought joy into our lives. But what about the male? Where are all the reasons that the women love us?

    Now, surely a man who cares about their dates aren't into hearing that they stick around for the good looks and the emotional convenience. Suddenly, the practice feels a lot like robbery or a case of paranoia. The woman's paranoia of a man's comfortable (possible) lie, and a man's paranoia of seeing something good slip through his hands, added to the paranoia that a man's emotions about his woman's motives isn't being put to rest. Sorry to sound like a detective, but if love is reciprocity and trust, that sounds like 60/40.

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  • I've asked my boyfriend before "why do you love me" but he responded something like "I dunno." Which is completely fine, he said he doesn't like being put on the spot. I know he loves me and I could probably guess the reasons why he does if I needed to. I love my boyfriend for more reasons than I can list in one sitting. But above all, he is a good, honorable man. And it's this reason that I will stand by his side always. 

  • I don't remember who said it or where I heard it, but there is a quote that really clicked with me and it goes something like this:"What's in the logician's mind is in the empath's heart."I can't tell you the angle in degrees at which I throw it, nor can I tell you how much force is behind it in joules or the speed it is going in miles per hour, but I can throw a basketball and often make it in the basket. Despite being overwhelmingly the logician myself, there are countless examples I can give of how this relates to my life. To put it simply, I don't care whether she can explain why she loves me any more than you probably care whether your favorite athlete or team can explain why the ball landed in one place and not another each time they score; there's no need when you can see the game yourself.Putting on my logician's hat - I think if a person needs to be verbally reassured of their partner's feelings in order for the relationship to continue they don't love him/her just yet.In a perfect world, love is the point when words are abandoned and physical expressions are all that remain to fully convey to your partner how he/she makes you feel."Conversation has a time and place In the interaction of a lover and a mate, But the time of talking, using symbols, using words Can be likened to a deep sea diver who is swimming with a raincoat."http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DEtyOLE89sE

  • i think a better reciprocal question is "what are you doing to continue deserving my love".

  • actually matters about heart have no logicit's the feelthis is something very subjective and abstractmost people love 1st and then try to look for reasons to justify why they love someone elsealso sometimes it's very hard to get the logic when someone no longer love the other personthis is no logic, this is not mathematics or science !

  • @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - If you're going to ask a person that, I think they should ask you "What would you stand to lose if I continued to receive your love and I don't deserve it?".I'll help you out. Your answer will be in the form of:"I would lose out on time I could spend in a relationship with a girl who [insert qualities here that you could've said in the first place instead of being a petty, insecure dick about the original question]".

  • When I ask a question it's because I am curious about the answer, and I figure that is why people ask questions of me as well. Not that some mind game is going on.If my BF wants to know why I love him...I can give him some reasons, but he'll also have to accept that part of it is "chemistry".I relationship with a SO is a huge investment and I think it's fair that people ask for and need various forms of reassurance etc. It's human. It may take different forms in men than in women. But wanting affirmation is normal and natural. But now you got my paranoia going...next time boyfriend asks me for a sandwich or backrub...I'm going to wonder what he is REALLY asking for.

  • the answer is in this here song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LwIAEgP9gKc"whoa whoa yay yay! love you more than I can say. i'll love you twice as much tomorrow love you more than I can say" put the instrumental on while singing the song, and prepare a blanket on the floor for her to swoon/faint on

  • looks, brains, humor. Same 3 reasons I give to my friends lol

  • @nepenthium@xanga - "looks, brains, humor."Says a zombie in disguise.

  • @T3hZ10n@xanga - hahaha

  • @T3hZ10n@xanga - where are you going to post your inanities (and do with your time) after xanga shuts down?

  • Why do you love me?! ;D Anywho. This made me want to post some of the reasons I love my man & stuck by him so long. Thanks! :D We're celebrating 3 years this October... :) (Of marriage... 10 of being friends, and 6 of dating.)

  • I was in the opposite of this, I told my ex what I loved about him. He didn't do the same for me. I soon learnt that he wouldn't ever be that nice to me, or anyone else for that matter because he wasn't a very nice person. And I left :)

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