August 14, 2013
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The Repulsive Ex Factor
When I was 17 I met this guy that I liked. After talking for a while, we started to go out. We barely saw each other and it was a pretty pathetic relationship. He was my first boyfriend unfortunately, and I guess when I think about it I didn't go out with him because I liked him, but because I just... wanted a boyfriend.
Forward a few weeks.
He broke up with me because he still had feelings for his ex, or some bullshit like that. Whatever. Immediately after that he IM'ed me and asked if I was okay. I was being a bitch and didn't want to talk to him. Months after he would still message me to "see how I was" and "remain friends."
He didn't just want to be friends. He wanted to hook-up. He wanted to hang out so we could mess around. And no I'm not just assuming, he would give major hints (if you even want to call them that). I refused all the time, but I'll admit I led him on a few times... just to kill his hopes.
The thing that makes this much worse is the fact that... he had a girlfriend! I base this all off Facebook, but I have pretty good evidence: his friends knew her as his girlfriend, they left each other cute little wall comments, and the big giveaway, his relationship status was set to "in a relationship with _____"(her).
I have to say, I was pretty insulted. Did he think I was that stupid and wouldn't check his information out?
Or maybe he was the moron. Maybe he had forgotten he had all that stuff on his page.
I wouldn't have met up with him even if he was single all that time. The more he messaged me, the more 'unattracted', repulsed, and disgusted I got with him. He kept trying even when he was with her. I even asked a number of times, "Don't you have a girlfriend?" or "What's your girlfriend going to think about this?" and he always denied having one. It got me so angry.
Eventually I would ignore him or just be a bitch to him whenever he messaged me... up until a few months ago. He messaged me and I told him off. I told him how keeping in touch with him since we broke up just showed me how much of a liar and dick he was. That was that; I deleted him, blocked him, and cut him out of my life—completely this time.
Have you ever had an ex that continued to try to get with you after the break up even while they were in a relationship? Or has anyone ever told you they had feelings for you when they were with someone else?
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Yeah, I've been told by someone she had feelings for me when she was with someone else. She was overtly hitting on me a good month or so before breaking up with her (now ex-)boyfriend. Their relationship had all but fallen apart by that point, so I sympathized and was understanding of that... only for her to later use it against me that the official title is what makes a relationship. According to her, because she withheld the titles that means she and I were never in a relationship, so technically she wasn't cheating on me when she hooked up with her aforementioned ex-boyfriend later that year (which just-so-happened to be during the time she promised me exclusivity). Either I misunderstood and we were just having casual sex or she was cheating on me. It can't be both.Not sure what it says about me that I still love her.When evil can always find a way in, good needs a backdoor. It is because of this I don't automatically consider such things a sign of bad intentions. When I am judged by a person for superficially (or traditionally) immoral behavior, anyone with a shred of emotional intelligence can tell that although I'm a pacifist at heart, deep down inside I want to paint the sky crimson with the blood of their firstborn and rain down in a Godly fucking firestorm on anyone who has the nerve to look at me with disdain when I have forgiven them for things far worse than I've ever done.
All the time. Men are disgusting.
Nope. Once an ex finds a new love, whatever residual sexual tension that was still left is done with. If things are not going well in our respective relationships, we might talk to each other about it but it's platonic, even if we throw in a few ego boosting compliments to each other. Sometimes, it's nice to hear your ex say something nice about you when you're having a bad day with your current SO.
Bahaha you think that's bad? My ex started messaging me one day, pretty out of the blue though we were still friends. Eventually he bought up how he can't have sex with his fiance because she's had surgery or something, and needs more blah blah and it's too painful BUT she's given him permission to get sex elsewhere...like me...because it can't be with any of their friends...because he's a man and he needs sex. Come on....I told him never to speak to me again. I'm not sitting around waiting for him to be able to sleep with me. God I was (and still ama little bit) angry he even asked. I felt so cheap. He was my first love and I thought I meant more to him than that. Anyway....lol.
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