August 18, 2013

  • The Little Things


    I was just watching a cooking show this morning where the host was talking about keeping the romance alive with your SO after you've been together for a long time. I guess I've always wondered about the people who have been married for 20, 30, or 40+ years. Obviously it isn't easy the entire time, and earlier generations didn't rely on divorce as heavily as some people in today's society do, but the idea sort of intrigued me.

    One of the things that the host said that really stuck with me was that "it's all about the little things." To a certain extent, I agree. After a couple of years together, I think sometimes you forget to appreciate the little things in a relationship the way you did in the beginning. I'm not really the sort of girl who likes getting flowers or candy (I hate chocolate actually).

    What I really enjoy is coming home from work to see that my boyfriend did all of the dishes without me asking, or snuggling up on the couch and watching a movie, just the two of us, even if we are both really busy. He always knows what to order me when we get take-out without asking. He'll write me little notes or draw me little pictures. He always takes care of me when I'm sick and stuck in bed all day. He sometimes (and I mean sometimes) will even make me a little snack if I'm too tired to go into the kitchen myself (I know, I'm lazy). And I would do all of these things and more for him!

    We've only been together for 4 years. In the grand scheme of life, that's a pretty short amount of time. But, it's been my longest relationship. I'm glad that we still appreciate the small things in our relationship. Some of my friends have asked me at times if I ever miss being single, but I really don't, especially when I remember all of the little things. 

    What about you all? Those of you in a relationship, what are the little things that your SO does for you that you love, or vice versa? How do you keep the romance alive in a relationship?
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Comments (8)

  • "We've only been together for 4 years. In the grand scheme of life, that's a pretty short amount of time."Oh, but a single nanosecond is unbelievably significant in determining the possibilities of what will happen in the future. I agree with you. Even in a little amount of time, the little things matter.

  • have. a. lot. of. quality. sex.

  •  he does everything i ask, pick up food, get groceries, do dishes, garbage,etc. But I don't really care about all that--I prefer to do most of the cleaning myself cuz I'm a weirdo and actually like cleaning when I'm not busy. Most important small thing he does that I love are little kid impressions lmao. He does impressions of characters and people reallyyy well (almost like littlekuriboh from youtube) so his cutsey pixar character voices always cheer me up.

  • I love when my fiancé does the little things. My absolute favorite thing, though, is when we go to bed and instead of sleeping, stay up talking and giggling about nothing. Reminds me of being young and in love! 

  • I think this is one of those self-perpetuating fallacies.  If you really like a person, you notice all the great "little things" they do for you.  If you don't really like a person, you notice all the "little things" that annoy the #*$(# out of you.

  • My favorite thing is when my boyfriend and I are playing together, laughing tickling, play fighting. I don't know, for some reason that's when I feel really connected to him and I always think, "God, I love this man so much!" Maybe I should tell him that.. I also think it's really sweet that he does the laundry while I'm at work, and he almost always cleans out the cat box without being asked. In return, most of the time, I try to have a hot meal on the table and the house cleaned up. We've been together for about 14 months and I still can't stay mad at him when he gives me this certain look! I invariably end up bursting into giggles and hugging and kissing him. :)

  • 35 years. supportive of each other through thick and thin. talk out our disagreements. he doesn't send me flowers nor buy me jewelry. he shows he loves me in a myriad of ways by what he does for me...cooks me dinner, runs errands for me, etc. he is retired and I work FT from home. 

  • I agree, it's all about the little things. A touch, a look, a gesture could change an entire mood for a whole day. One of my favorite things my fiance does for me is once in a while when I've had an especially crappy work day, he'll get me my favorite sweet tea and some chocolate. It cheers me right up. :)  

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