August 26, 2013

  • Confused About This Guy (Aren't We All?)

    Okay, so if I wasn't completely confused before, I wouldn't be THIS confused now...

    I've known this guy for about three years now. I admit, I don't "know know" him. I know that he's funny, compassionate, and very outgoing. I caught him staring at me once, smiling like an utter idiot. Now, I would assume that he did that to be funny and get a reaction out of me... but I really don't know. This is high school we're talking about, and believe me, I haven't been "around the block" a lot. He's also a very "touchy feely" type of guy.

    He can at times come off as a very loving person due to family background, but not frequently enough to make me certain. He would always find an excuse to touch me. This closeness included rubbing my back, to playing with my fingers... what does that mean?!

    Now, being a very good friend to his little sister, I went to a semi-formal dance with her and another friend. He came with a date though, with whom I did notice he would stray away from a lot to talk to his other friends. So, I'm guessing that may mean he's not that interested? Anyway, he ignored me quite a bit; never staying around the same area I was in for longer than 5 minutes. Then, out of the blue, he came up to me as I was talking with a friend and asked, "So how are you doing?"

    I was in a funky mood all throughout the night. I would get sad because I missed all of the people around me that I've known for so long and hardly ever see anymore, to feeling angry at the fact I had the impression that the only reason guys were asking me to dance was because I was being pitied. After watching him ask nearly all of the girls to dance but me, and myself being asked and having kindly rejected due to my mood, I finally agreed to dance with a guy who asked me to end the night on a sweet note.

    We went into the ball room, the slow music started and we just danced. Now, the guy who was ignoring me all night was in the same room, dancing with a girl, and staring at me and this guy swaying awkwardly back and forth. Now, I would have thought that he was having a long distance, silent conversation with the guy I was dancing with, being that the guy I was dancing with smiled in his direction once during our dance, but he never looked at him again. And here the other one was, staring in our direction, intently on my face.

    What does this mean? Does that rule "ignore the girl you like" apply here? Or am I being an idiot and jumping to conclusions? Help would be greatly appreciated.

Comments (6)

  • I don't go for games. Pick a guy who's mature.

  • I think you would be less confused if you didn't mind what they thought or why they thought it. this is confusing-- and I think that the best thing to do is just say 'I don't want to be pitied' and 'I don't want to play games'. Then go to college and find a nice boy and get real hot and when you come back for your 10 year reunion, show off your spanking ass. And those guys who are grinning at each other will probably be dating.... each other. -- but probably not. Still, sometimes it's fun to make up shit.

    So. IMO... if you like him, then I vote you ignore the guy you like. 

  • Let him know that you are interested, too, and see what happens. ...By that, I mean...touch him back when he touches you...briefly, on his arm or something. Smile back when he smiles at you..Pay attention to him when he comes around...

    Then, you will find out if he likes you..There are many signals that he might!

  • Ahhhh...first world teenage problems

  • You should probably just ask him if he likes you.

  • Just ask if he's interested in you. It might make you nervous at first, but being nervous for a little while is much better than being uncertain for an indefinite amount of time.  

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