Month: August 2013

  • Birth Control: Who Should Call the Shots?


    If you’re sexually active and you’re not looking to reproduce, then birth control is probably on your mind from time to time.     If you’re gay (like me), then your birth control is biology. But if you’re straight, you’re going to need a pill, ring, patch, condom, or other contraceptive contraption or substance to help prevent pregnancy. My question is: when it comes to birth control, who should call the shots? Continue reading →

  • I Want to Text Him But...

    Two nights ago I was texting with my good friend from school, Jill*. We were both out with friends, and she was telling me that a guy that used to like her had joined them. She was particularly excited because things had been weird between them before, but it seemed like they could start becoming good friends. I told her good luck and that we would talk the next day. The next morning, I texted her asking how it went with the guy. She said it went well although he did get a little too touchy for her taste at some points in the night. She said she had a good time with everyone and wanted to text him the next morning like she would normally do with her friends. However, she was a bit concerned. Continue reading →

  • Helping a Guy Best Friend Financially: Okay or Not?


    I've been close to this special guy friend of mine for 10 years now. I moved to a different country two years ago but we are still best friends. He always texts me first every day, but this is a completely one-sided love story. I like him, but he doesn’t feel the same for me. So yeah, I've loved this guy for 10 years now.

    He already graduated college and is just reviewing for their board exam. My best friend’s financial status is not that great. I want him to reach his dreams and I decided to help him financially until he passed the board exam. I send him money twice a month (as an allowance) and it doesn’t really bother me at all. What bothers me is that he’s thinking that he owes me a lot already and I feel like even if he doesn’t talk to me about it, he’s not comfortable that I am sending him money but he just has no other choice but to rely on me for now.  Continue reading →

  • How I Like to Be Dated


    There are certain things I see and/or have experienced in the world of dating that I like and do not like. Personally, here they are. Which points do you agree with or don't agree with?

     
    1. I like to be asked out on a formal date, and this is something I will teach my kids when I have them. It doesn't have to be down on one knee, rose in hand, with a violin playing in the background - no. Rather, I would like to know that I am actually on a date, and not just "hanging out." For example, if a guy was interested in me, I would enjoy "Let's go to dinner, just you and me," instead of "I'm going to Taco Bell, wanna come?" Because otherwise, you will instantly go into my friend-zone.
     
    I'm pretty much the same when it comes to asking guys out myself.
     
    2. Eye contact is important. I don't want to sit there idly while I watch you play with your phone half the time, or look past me/somewhere else during conversation. Sometimes, I like to literally STARE at guys who can't look me during a conversation just to make them feel more uncomfortable about how ridiculous it is to be talking to their hands. I just realized right now that it might be a form of bullying (apologies to those few). 

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  • How Long Should You Wait to Drop the "L" Word?


    We told my dad we were going downstairs to watch a movie, eat snacks, be innocent. 30 Days of Night became background noise to our make out session, the light from the TV screen illuminating lip lock and longing. Mercedes stopped for a moment and pulled away, looked down at me, and I heard her say, “I love you.” The “L” word was out.  Continue reading →

  • When You Assume...


    My friend Drew was talking to me about his friend Nathan the other day. Nathan is a good looking guy. There's no denying that. He is very charming, he's got a great sense of humor, and he portrays himself as a gentleman. He'll buy you drinks all night.

    He's very attentive and when you're talking to him, you get all of his attention. On the surface, Nathan is pretty close to the perfect guy when you first meet him. But what most girls who meet him at the bar don't know is that he's a real pro at what I'll call "hitting it and quitting it."

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  • Why Is He Still Single?!


    One of my favorite things to do is sit in my living room with some popcorn and watch old episode of Sex and the City! In this particular episode, Carrie was seeing this guy named Aidan. She's dated some good guys before but Aidan.. was perfect. He was driven, had his own furniture store, good-looking, tall, sweet, considerate,  open to a long term commitment, and he cared about her! He was really.. almost the perfect guy. In about 3 or 4 episodes, Carrie keeps trying to find his fatal flaw. There has to be something wrong with this guy, how is he still single if he's so perfect? 

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  • He Showed Interest. I Became Interested. He Lost Interest.

    Yesterday, I was talking with my good friend from school, Kelly*. She was talking about a really sweet guy that is also an intern at her job. One day, he drove her home from work because they live in the same area. As she was about to get out of the car, he asked for her number and mentioned taking her out on a date. Kelly had never really thought of this guy in a romantic way. She didn't even think of him as a friend but more of an acquaintance. She decided to keep an open mind though. He texted her a few hours after dropping her off and Facebook chatted her that night, once again mentioning their date. The more he spoke of taking her out, the more Kelly became interested.  Continue reading →

  • Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words?


    A few weeks ago, my best friend Ash moved three hours away from her hometown. Obviously, the move meant that her hometown-based friendships would be undergoing some changes. Phone calls and text messages would be taking the place of movie nights and late-night heart-to-hearts, and FaceTime would be replacing, well, face time. Once Lucy, another one of Ash’s friends, realized all of this, she decided that it was time for a confession. Continue reading →