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  • He's Just Not That Into Me


    It's a little after nine o'clock on the night of my fourteen-month anniversary, I am sitting alone in the living room. I made dinner, got out the china and the candles, put on a dress, did my hair and makeup. After dinner he came in the living room, turned on the football game and promptly proceeded to fall asleep. He went into the bedroom and is now passed out. I know he works hard, but is it too much to ask or a little romance on our anniversary?

    At dinner I brought up, again, how much I would love for him to go with me to the local club and hear my favorite band play. I always envisioned myself no longer having to go alone as I enviously watched couples dancing and making out on the dance floor. My best friend and I always go to hear our favorite band when they are in town, but I really wanted him to come with us too. He says it is not his "scene," whatever the hell that means. I told him that if he really wanted me to do something, even if it was something I really didn't want to do, I would do it anyways, just to make him happy.

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  • When Seeing Your Ex Is Inevitable


    With the fall semester less than a week away, I’m looking forward to seeing friends, and I’m wondering if I will cross paths with any exes. (I don’t think any of them go to my university, but I don’t know for sure.) In high school, I didn’t need to wonder. I knew I would be walking by, sitting next to, or working with guys that I had dated, and I was never quite sure how to best handle these inevitable ex encounters. Continue reading →

  • 365 Sexless Days & Nights


    "I thought my love for Andrew was my belief system. Now I needed to find a new religion... Love had taken us halfway around the world and back. Or maybe it was only the idea of love. But it left us quietly in the arrival terminal of the San Francisco airport. And how could love do that after all those nights arranging the mosquito netting carefully over each other’s heads?" -- A Pact to Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

    2 people, madly in love, decide to do an experiment. A year without sex. A pact to abstain from sex with each other, with anyone. After those 365 sexless days and nights, they would take a trip out of the country, to Southeast Asia, and have sex for the first time in a year. It's unclear what the two thought would be accomplished from this experiment. Maybe they wanted to see what role sex played in their relationship, maybe they wanted to see how long they could abstain, I'm not sure, but what resulted is a heartbreaking account of love, distance, and loss.  Continue reading →

  • He Picked Her Over Me, Now I'm Out $200


    This post was submitted anonymously.

    Before I tell you why I am out 200 bucks because of a broken friendship, let me tell you the background story.

    I met this girl through my brother. They dated for six months, and the relationship didn't work, however, we kept on being friends. Hell, even became best friends! We went clubbing and hung out all the time when we weren't at work. She even called me her "little sister"... She’s an only child and I never had a sister either—only brothers.

    During that time we hung out, she met my male best friend. We have been super close since the age of 13, though never anything romantic. We were a trio of fun! However... things started to become a little sour when they wouldn't invite me to their outings.

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  • Vacation Temptation


    I spent the past week roadtripping from big cities to small towns and everywhere in between. Along the way, I saw several attractive young women, and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t check them out. But, being in a committed monogamous relationship, I didn’t approach any of them. If I was single, though, that may not have been the case. Maybe, just maybe, I would have tried for a vacation hookup. Continue reading →

  • The Little Things


    I was just watching a cooking show this morning where the host was talking about keeping the romance alive with your SO after you've been together for a long time. I guess I've always wondered about the people who have been married for 20, 30, or 40+ years. Obviously it isn't easy the entire time, and earlier generations didn't rely on divorce as heavily as some people in today's society do, but the idea sort of intrigued me.

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  • Dating on the Job?

    The other day, I was talking to my friend at work. I was in a new position, so she was filling me in on the office gossip. Continue reading →

  • Unmarried, But Want Children

    So...it's a little bit weird.

    I'm a 31-year-old single, white female, living on her own. I have my own apartment, took a loan from the bank, have 30 years to pay for it and my own full, paid car. I don't want to get married—ever. My father is an alcoholic and my mother left home. It was bad for me. I have a lover—he is 45, married and has a 20-year-old daughter.  Continue reading →

  • First Impressions: Meet the Salesperson

    I was reading some blogs this morning and came across a quote that I liked about first impressions, "When you meet someone, you usually don’t meet the real person. You meet their sponsor, or their agent. It takes a while to really know someone..." This little quote made me laugh because I think it's really true to the way people act when they first meet. I would admit at times in the beginning of relationships or during a first date, I am a bit more like a car salesman than I normally am.  Continue reading →

  • Missing in Action


    So I was dating a guy in March-May. It was casual but there was something there. Slowly, it was as if the conversations were dying and I was the one initiating conversations. I figured maybe he was losing interest and I backed off. He never tried contacting me and I let it die off. I even deleted his number off my phone. Today I got a text message to see how I've been and stating how I was on his mind. I replied back with the usual "hey I'm doing well, how about you?" and he replied with a response and once again he stated how I was on his mind.

    I could not help but think, "where the heck was his mind for the past few months?" I feel that if someone really was interested in you, they would show interest and would try talk to you to get to know you better. They would not go missing in action for a couple of months and then when for whatever reason they get bored, decide to message you up.

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