A friend of mine, Jen, has been casually seeing this guy, Andrew for the last month or so. We all went over to her apartment before we went downtown the other day and he came along with us. After a few loaded Coronas, we all took a cab to the bars. After a few drinks at the apartment, Andrew accidently left his phone at Jen's apartment. We stayed at the bar for a couple of hours, had a few more drinks, and took a cab back to Jen's apartment (Andrew ended up leaving the bar separately with some of his friends).

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I found out recently that my boyfriend is going to grad school, and both of his top choices were at least fourteen hours from home. We have been together a long time, and we have had serious discussions about our future together. When it came down to it, I agreed that I would join him wherever he ends up going, as long as I can get a job there. Continue reading →

"I'm thinking maybe I can't have relationships cause lately they're not making any sense." - Double Vision by 3OH!3

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My friend Yelena met this guy while she was at work, Tim. He was older, had a full time job, and was new to town. Because he was new to town, he didn't know anyone besides my friend, so he clung to her. He started asking her out to dinner multiple times a week, they went furniture shopping together, and he even came downtown with us to the bars a couple of times. They had made out on a few different occasions, but never anything past that. This went on for about a month and a half. 

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No regrets, right? Ehhh... it's not always that way. I love to live my life to fullest, live every day like my last, yada yada, however, there are some things I have done, and a day later I think, "Why? Ughhh! I could have handled that so much better! If only, I would have taken a moment to stop and think about it."

We have all made at least one irrational decision at some point. I'm willing to bet more than half of us have wished we didn't make that irrational decision. Personally, the after-shock is what I usually dread. I've become better at making decisions and thinking before I act, but this has come from making the mistakes in the first place. In the words of, Alanis Morisette "You live, you learn."

After what I have learned in my twenty-two years of living, I can vouch that my life is much better when I think before I act. Typically, my thinking is rational. Most of my irrational decisions have been made when I am lacking sleep, sick, upset, or I have a dramatic situation sprung on me. Sometimes it's a mix of all of them. 

I now have a list of simple things I ask myself before making a decision about what I should/shouldn't say/do.  Continue reading →

I was texting my friend, Miriam*, this morning when we got on the subject of weight. I joked about how much weight I have gained this summer after countless late night fast food runs with my friends after going out. I told her how I may or may not have ripped a skirt that used to fit when I sat down at work the other day. I told her I never really liked the skirt though, so it was okay. We joked at how people might not even be able to recognize us once we returned to campus. We sent countless virtual "hahahahahaha's" back and fourth as I snickered and tried not to disturb the people in my office. I liked how Miriam and I could laugh about this type of stuff.

The mood shifted quite suddenly when we got to the subject of returning to campus. Miriam brought up her boyfriend who has been abroad for the whole summer. She is extremely excited to see him when we go back to school in a month but at the same time, kind of hesitant. "Wait what if he actually doesn't recognize me..?" Continue reading →

For my 21^st birthday, I gathered a group of friends and went out to one of the best clubs around. At one point during the night, I was approached by a totally cute, totally hammered guy. “What are you drinking?” he asked. I told him. He then asked if he could try it. In a matter of seconds, the stubble-bearded stranger had downed the rest of my Apple Pucker and Sprite. Without thinking, I flirtatiously sputtered out, “So, you’re gonna buy me another drink, right?” Continue reading →

After three years of dating, Andrew has spent plenty of time with my family. While I do roll my eyes from time to time when he hangs out with my dad, or gangs up on me with my sister, I am actually glad he gets along so well with my family.  Continue reading →

"What do you do when you're tired of the prospect of dating?"

Recently, a friend showed me http://fortydaysofdating.com. Basically two friends, both artists, who happen to be single at the same time, decided to date each other for 40 days and document the experiment. The experiment basically answers the question, "What happens when two people with polar opposite relationship philosophies date?" What results is an interesting look into the lives of these two people, as you see the ups and downs of a relationship from both sides. After every date, they fill out a questionnaire that recounts the details of their date and explains how both are feeling about themselves, about each other, and about the experiment. 

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Several weeks ago, my friend, Sara*, and her coworker were discussing their plans for the upcoming weekend. Sara went first saying she'd probably have dinner with some friends and then go out after. Her coworker seemed really excited about her weekend. Her plans were somewhat different from Sara's. Although her coworker did intend to go out as well, her destination caught Sara a little off guard. She was going to the strip club.  Continue reading →