July 28, 2013
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Woman or Rolex?
A couple of years ago I wrote a post where I calculated the amount of money I wound up not wasting on women by taking the Dutch approach to dating. I calculated it long-term, that amount was roughly $2,700.
My dream watch is a Rolex Oyster Perpetual Datejust with diamond-set dial and a leather strap. Yes, I have a very expensive taste in watches indeed. I agree it's a totally frivolous way to plunk down thousands of dollars (especially in light of the fact that there are plenty of quality mechanical watches that cost much less than that), but I'm a watch enthusiast so it's alright.
Being the bargain hunter I am, and being a certified master watchmaker with experience restoring fine timepieces, I decided I would look at used Rolexes that perhaps weren't in the best of shape that I could buy for a reasonable price and then restore myself to pristine condition.
It took some looking around, but I found my gold mine. The cost? $2,800. You see, the money I didn't spend on women was almost enough to completely pay for my Rolex. Sure, it's not a brand spanking new Rolex, and it will take some TLC from a master watchmaker's hand to get it up and running, but the thing basically paid for itself.
Once I get this baby fixed up, all I'll ever have to do is check the time to remind myself why I don't waste my money on women.
How much do you spend on the opposite sex? Have you ever calculated the amount?
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IMO, that you are master watchmaker is probably the most interesting thing you've ever said on Datingish. Pretty cool line of work. Props to anyone whose hobby or profession takes that much focus and skill.More relevant:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZ4Ib-7fJqY"When I'm working, yes, I know I'm gonna be I'm gonna be the man who's working hard for you And when the money comes in for the work I do I'll pass almost every penny on to you" - my philosophyRegardless of whether it's physical, emotional, or monetary, she who is my motivation shall reap all the rewards her heart desires.
Good for you for being selfish. As long as you're okay with your hand and buying escorts, having different women all the time and not coming home to one person, more power to you! The money I've spent on significant others, I could have bought 3 of your real Rolex watches, but I'm not a material person. I enjoy the warmth of another human being, the same human being, when I find the right one who doesn't use me for my money like that. There's no room for settling. I don't see a problem with switching off for paying dates. Even amount of money is being put in if you calculate it correctly to the last cent.
@Good4You - We're all selfish. There's nothing wrong with being that way, that's just what we are. As far as buying 3 of my Rolexes, the list price for a Rolex in full working order like the one I'm restoring is around $10,000, so if you spent $30K of your money on significant others you're even dumber than you sounded in that comment. "Warmth" means nothing to me. I don't feel love, so whatever. Any relations I might have are purely physical/sexual in nature, so whatever. @T3hZ10n@xanga - It's not difficult work. It's tedious and time-consuming, but it's not difficult if you have the right training and tools.
you could pay a little extra and get a little naked woman painted over the face of the rolex and then you could have both. FOREVER.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - and i as well would walk a thousand miles for the one
i fcking thoroughly love the shit out of that song
@accumulations@xanga - Yeah, that would take the value down to about zero. Not to mention if the paint flaked off and worked its way into the watch mechanism it would fail.
Hmm.... that is one way of thinking about it-- though I don't really see money as a big part of a relationship marker-- since I either pay or try to insist on going dutch with guys. I enjoy giving and keeping money, though nice, isn't a goal of mine. Though i always was a bit irked when people compared which was 'better' of two completely unrelated things. Like... a rolex can't give you a blow job.Though I find your hobby pretty bad ass.
I spend a majority of my money on myself. I used the excel program and calculated my expenditures and it is about a couple thousand $$$ a year. I categorized everything. It took me around 2hrs to calculate all of the receipts. then I sorted the receipts by category into this medium organizer file I didn't calculate this recently but a while ago. I'm an ocd neat freak perfectionist/shopoholic/daydreaming schoolgirl
You don't want to "waste" money on a woman? Well then, you do not deserve to be with anyone! Maybe you'd hate the world and everyone in it less if you stopped thinking so much of yourself.
I find it kinda funny though that the lady in the picture is wearing a men's Rolex Datejust. Oh well, I guess women wear men's clothes these days, why can't they wear men's watches?
I spend a lot of money on my GF, well north of a Rolex watch but I see it as an investment as opposed to being wasted cash (once I buy the ring, the total will skyrocket). For the time and wealth I pour into my relationship, I get so much more return on the investment so I feel like I come out ahead. I'm not a rich man but I think I have enough money to live comfortably and yet, I never felt I had enough until I had someone to share it with. What is wealth if not to enjoy with those you care about? Then again, I'm kinda Mr. Brightside Hippy so you could say I'm bias in the matter. It also helps that my GF makes almost 2x as much as I do =)
Ah, so you're a horologist.
You have "expensive taste" yet too poor to buy a brand new one.. You're pathetic! -_- You give and you get. I don't calculate how much I spend on the people I've dated, and I'm sure it's worth a lot more than what you've spent. I once bought an ex a $700.00 cell phone for his birthday. Do I care if we are no longer dating? NO. I've also received gifts in return, also. Why do you care about how much you spent on someone? If you are so cheap, then don't spend money on them. If you do spend money, don't bitch about it. Literally you sound like a bitch.
@meow - Why should I buy a brand new one when I can save that money and get a fixer-upper that I have the know-how to fix? I wouldn't call that necessarily being too poor to buy a new one, I'd consider that being financially smart. Besides, I'll have nursed this watch back to health myself, making it just that much more special to me. Every dollar I spend on someone else is a dollar I could have spent on myself. That's why I don't spend money on people. I also don't accept gifts from others because I hate it when other people spend their money on me.
I think its great... your not being selfish your attending to your needs that someone else didnt fulfill.. i say enjoy the hell out of the watch! and watch the ladies pour in ;]
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - Buying a used one and fixing it is far from being able to buying a new one. It's "financially smart" or in other words... cannot afford the new one.. in other words you ain't about that life... you're not a baller but pretends to be.... in other words- pathetic. So you don't want to spend on others, you deserve to be alone. Have fun being alone with your used up watch. It's not about the amount you spend on others but the thought about you caring enough to spend on others. You are really sad if you count every dollar you spend on someone.. Who the hell do that shit? Cheap bastards.
@meow - I never said I was a baller nor do I claim to be one. I live on a disability check. For me it's not about having a status symbol or anything - if you failed to read I'm a horologist and in general a clock and watch enthusiast. Why is that such a sin? Oh, and just so you know, mechanical watches (i.e. watches that are powered by either automatic or manual winding rather than batteries) don't really age per se. So long as they are maintained and in working condition don't really lose any value as they age. Once I get this thing fixed up it will be worth just as much as a new Rolex with the same features (around $10,000). The reason this one was only $2,800 is it wasn't in working condition (which, for something that's not in working condition, it just goes to show how well they *DO* retain their value). Being alone is nice anyway. The less contact I have with people the better I like it. I hate people.
@secretbeerreporter@xanga - I never said it was a sin to be poor. Don't be butt hurt and turn it around. The fact that you smirked about having "expensive taste and proceed to say you spend money on a broken watch is pathetic. That's great you like to be alone because no woman in their right mind would want to be with a pathetic, cheap, loser like you.
You should do what I do and get your dates to pay. That REALLY saves a lot of money. Or you can have them buy you a Rolex. Or two. Actually Rolex is too cheap, how about a Patek Phillipe instead? Still too cheap? Okay, A Lange & Sohne it is!
On almost all of my dates, I go Dutch. Some of the dates really kick up a storm about it, so I relent. But I'm a blunt person, so I tell them to their face, don't expect anything from me. Sorry, but I don't trust anyone who buys me something without wanting "something" in return. Even when I was married, we went Dutch. *rolling eyes Considering that all of our funds were in the same accounts, that made even fucking less sense, but that's neither here not there. As for wasting money, how about some of you guys wasting my time? Time that I could have been using to sleep, read, relax, and not to be aggravated, picked at or ogled at. (I'm not a girly girl, so don't think that I dress to kill or anything.) I'm not into material stuff. Why? Because I work, earn my money, and spend it on others and myself as I see fit. I don't need anyone to "take care of me" financially.And do you know how many tens of thousands of dollars I have expended in the past over exes, for birthdays, holidays, vacations, etc? No, not talking about Valentine's nor anniversaries. Just saying that it can be two-way street.In summary, don't shame/tarnish everyone with the same stick. Give it a chance.
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