July 11, 2017
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Why Do Guys Treat Women Like They're Nothing?
I figure since there are a lot of posts that get submitted like, "Why Do Women Do This or That," I'd make a post for the opposite gender.I can't tell you how many stories I've read where the guy treats the woman like she's nothing. For example, this blog here. Really, I was just appalled by that guy's behavior. Not only did he lie about cheating on her, he lied about getting someone else pregnant, and also tried to blame it on the woman and accused her of doing things, too.
Why do guys treat women that way? If they're not interested in the woman, can't they have the courtesy to at least tell her? It's not "sparing" someone's feelings if you don't tell; you're probably just trying to get away with it for as long as you can. Is it all just some power game where men feel like they need to maintain their "masculinity"?
No but really, I want to know why guys treat women like this. Can someone who has treated a woman this way explain these crude behaviors to me? Although, I'm willing to bet that no guy will admit to treating a woman this way because he knows that he'd have 50+ women on him.
Does any other woman out there want to know like me? Have you been treated this way?
Comments (55)
Because women let men treat them that way. Only when we women recognize that being single can be actually more pleasurable than spending our days anxiously trying to get men to stay with us... will we be strong.
Really? Most of the post on Datingish are of the why do guys[ insert behavior that 100% of all straight men (and 85% of gay men) exhibit ] type. Most men don't act like the example you linked. People treat you the way you let them treat you. Did you really read that post? She admitted that she ignored the red flags she was seeing and stayed with this guy despite the fact he basically treated her like crap and then blamed her for it. At some point she should have said enough. The guy was being who he was. She took it for whatever her reasons were. It takes two people to have a dysfunctioning relationship. Guys who act like jerks date women who let them get away with it. The same is true for men who constantly whine that women treat them like crap put up with it or go for the same type of woman again and again..
Why do guys do this, why go girls do that..... it's more so why do people treat other people the way they treat them.A good relationship is not about control over the other person; it's about being two halves coming together to create one. It's about complimenting each other and bringing the best out of each other. Chances are if one person tries to seize control of another, it's either lack of control or the inability to put your foot down. If you don't want to be treated like shit, make sure you don't. Just also be sure you don't treat them like shit either. If those two actions are not possible, break up and move on.
pointing the blame on one gender or the other could maybe be a sign of some kind of frustrationinstead of worrying about what these guys are doing, how about be happy that you can see this, can avoid such guys, and maybe be able to help out other people who could be facing issues with such guys. why point something like this out? do you intend to change all guys to the way you see fit?anyhow, I agree with the comments above regarding that if the girl allows for the guy to be a jerk, then he can be one
uhhh isn't like every post on here some form of feminist propaganda? i thought the posts yesterday were quite refreshing. the particular incident you cite is pretty bad, don't get me wrong, but i really think it's the exception to the rule. to answer the question in the title, it's quite simple: i will stop seeing women as warm holes when they start acting like they are worth anything more (i.e. stop expecting me to buy their shit). the only women that really get my gears going are the super independent ones who don't want to play the damsel in distress.basically, @phoebester@xanga nailed it. (by the way, we should totally hang out sometime.)
Why does it have to be gender specific? I've dated guys that have treated me shitty, and I've dated guys that treat me like I'm the best thing ever. I've also been friends with girls that have treated me shitty, and girls that are super nice and sweetheart-y. It's just the way some people are. To be honest, people treat others how they let them treat them. I dated a guy who treated me like shit at the end of our relationship and it was because I let him do it. When he previously had I would make sure he knew that it wasn't right, but near the end I wanted him in my life so much that I didn't care how rude he was to me, so I let him treat me the way he did. You shouldn't ever give someone the power to walk all over you though.
Shoe's on the other foot with the why do guys do this and that post and they don't like it! ahhh but they like the ones where it generalizes women, funny.
When I consider how different males and females are when it comes to picking up on the subtleties of interaction, I can definitely say I've treated a few women like nothing emotionally (not fully realizing how harshly insensitive my words were to them at the time), but every woman I've treated like that treated me the same way at one point or another and most often I was only returning their sentiment in the first place. It was never anything as bad as the blog you linked; that's more the guy doing something unsympathetic whereas in my case I was merely being unsympathetic (about her issues, not caused by myself). Ugh, that pic.... she desperately needs a hug. It happens the other way around all the time. I'm not trying to downplay how unbalanced I know it to truly be gender-wise, just saying I definitely know the feeling.
Forgot to log in as Xinq?
I can't say that I have been treated that way. I'm usually like the cute spoiled princess some guys have spoiled me and I've spoiled some of them. spoiling sounds negative. I'll go with pampering instead I think they melt like butter after they hear my cutesy voice and then see this petite looking girl, who reminds them of a bunny-exactly like my profile pic-and can't do much of anything else besides love me the universe has been good to me. I think some of them are tone deaf or lovestruck because when a guy annoys me, I might tell him along the lines of I hate him and don't want to talk to him again, but he seems to hear it as, I want you badly. be my sugar puff baby forever I already mentioned this on another comment lol but I think my guy was hypnotized by my booty shaking/hip action rotatin' and was like...I could look at THAT all day. I like roleplaying, so he loves how I love dressing up in my cute and sexy princess dresses. some of them are showgirl dresses you can be a moviestar and be adored like a moviestar everyday don't let anyone treat you less than VIP don't ride with the donkeys. ride on a high horse that's how the divas roll
Why guys treat guys like they're nothing is another good question to consider (and I'm not referring to romantic relationships). People take other people for granted.The solution is simple: At some point in their life (early adulthood preferably), everyone should have to go on something similar to an extended Native American vision quest. You can never really appreciate your fellow man or woman until you've felt absolutely alone without feeling lonely. It sounds like hippie bullshit, but I guarantee you there is some science behind it (it sure as hell worked for me), if only the fact that it reinforces one's desire to interact with others in a positive, productive, and compassionate manner whenever possible and to be serious when necessary.Also, the thought of having 50+ women on me doesn't produce anything close to what I would consider a negative mental image (though I would politely decline). I admitted to it, but my bet is that those 50+ women can almost certainly think of a time they treated a guy (even if they assumed he was an asshole at the time) like nothing while not knowing just how deeply their own crude behaviors effected him.
Sweetie, please. For every story you can tell about a guy doing something horrible to a woman, I've got a similar story about a woman doing something horrible to a man. (Yes yes, I know. When a woman cheats, it's because the man drove her away, right?)To use the example you listed in the linked blog, a guy got some other girl pregnant and then lied to his girlfriend about ever cheating in the first place. Well, my friend Chuck and his girlfriend were about to have a baby together, until she was 8 months pregnant and decided to confess that the baby was actually his best friend's. Crazy, huh?Sweetie, please stop the man-bashing. (This goes for the rest of Datingish as well) As much as you hate to admit it, you and every other straight woman out there need men just as much as we need you. Not all women are clean and virtuous, not all men are honorable and loyal. Your only option is to learn which men are good for you here and now, and which ones need more time to mature.
"Why do I, and everyone I love, pick people who treat us like we're NOTHING?" "We accept the love we think we deserve." Pretty sure that's not how it happened in the movie, but I like the trailer sequence better. And it answers your question. [The Perks of Being a Wallflower]http://youtu.be/aog8680PVmU
That guy is probably a psychopath or sociopath. Lots of them exist out there. People who can't empathise or really feel emotion, and who thrive off damaging others. They believe everyone else is the same as them and think it's their victims 'fault' for being so stupid as to allow themselves to be treated that way. Live and learn. I just need a picture of a soft cat now...
I treat girls like they're nothing because that's what is positively enforced. The moment I show an ounce of being a decent human being, her vagina gets drier than Death Valley. Why are there so many dirtbags in the world? Because women keep sleeping with them. It's a sad day indeed when kindness becomes a character flaw.
People are treated badly because they LET themselves be treated that way. Note I say "people", not "women". It's not gender specific.
I agree that when a woman complains no one is there bashing men in general. lol Funniest thing watching some of you condemn a girl for becoming the girlfriend of a guy when she was confused about her feelings. And this guy blatantly lying to a girl, cheating on his pregnant girlfriend, somehow isn't responsible, she is. Because she let him lie to her lol
Well there are 2 possible answers IMO..1, because women let guys treat them badly.. or 2.. thats what his parent's marriage was like.. Think about it.. if a guy growing up sees his dad treat women like dirt, and the women don't do anything about it.. then that guy is going to grow up thinking that behavior is totally acceptable. This goes the other way for women as well.
It may be true that she let him in some cases but let's see...if a guy raped me it's because I let him? Then it wouldn't be rape now would it? I wasn't wearing promiscuous clothing, I still had myself covered up. Then again I didn't let him. I kicked him off me before he could do anything to me and I pretty much told him to get bent by kneeing him.@TaleOfAScale@xanga - The girl's already in so much pain let's just make her in more pain by saying it's her fault, right? lol. I agree, sometimes it isn't the girl's fault.Although for me, when I saw any signs of a guy that thought he could toy with me like that, I immediately dropped him before he could do any more damage. I don't have a high tolerance for guys like the one mentioned in the OP. A guy not man/men, tried to contact me when he was with another girl, I didn't bother to respond.And for any guy that responds saying women do this, too -- then why don't you stop generalizing women with other traits when everything is found in both traits?
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - Hi, Dr_Jeecheroohttp://www.datingish.com/768599831/why-are-most-women-so-hostile-towards-guys-with-social-anxiety/You forgot to post on your Chibi name when you submitted that one. You think I can't tell that's you? Lol, as if you're one to talk about other people posting on different screen names. Look in the mirror, hypocrite. You probably think a lot of the anon posts are me but they aren't. I'd put my name and take credit for if a post was mine you delusional douche bag. I'm all about giving credit where credit is due. Shut up already you fucking cunt.P.S. Just because you have a medical condition called asperger's doesn't give you the right to be a hypocrite. You want to dish it out, be prepared to be flamed back.
@sunflowersforlove@xanga - Did you not read the first line? It's gender specific in retaliation to all the posts made by guys generalizing women. JFC.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - I probably won't get a reply from you about being Dr Jeecheroo but we all know that's you. You forget to log in as Chibi?
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - You're the type of troll that dishes it out but then runs when your ass gets handed back to you. Get over yourself. You have no room to tell anyone they attack members on xanga or sign in under other names when you do the same and are much worse about it.
A better question might be, why does every datingish poster EVER hang out and date assholes, then submit posts saying they are SHOCKED that these assholes were assholes to them?
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - i want you to know i *still* laugh at this classic quote by you: "i need my daily fix of WTF." so i mean like...if we didn't have posts by these idiots, you wouldn't have your daily fix, right?
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - lol but datingish would be dead without those kinds of posts. and once they're gone ppl would wish they were still here. i'm wondering how some posts get through and some don't. most of my posts talk about my dating experiences and i don't even talk about how women/men are this way and that, i just say something about the individual that i am experiencing. kinda curious as to who proofreads all the posts and determines what gets submitted.
@xinq@xanga - I read the first line, but besides the pregnancy part girls do the same thing to guys. It's ridiculous how girls think guys are out to get them all the time. Talk about trolling.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - Twat can talk shit about me in comments and talk crap in the comments in my blog but ya block me from viewing your crappy page of lies, lol. You're a pathetic little wannabe who acts like you're hot shit online but in real life you're that socially awkward kid that no one wants to talk to because you're so weird. Next time, don't be accusing me of things you have no fucking proof of you pathetic twit.
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - Don't go making sense now!
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - That sorcery you use, this "common sense," tis not welcome in ye parts o' Datingish!
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Let me get this straight: Because women want you to buy them gifts, you feel justified in thinking of them as only, and I quote, "warm holes"?Seriously? If you want a hole to stick your dick into, buy a fucking Fleshlight. They feel amazing. Only $50.If you're going to actually get involved with real women, how about you make the little bit of effort to treat them with respect? If you don't want to buy a woman something, you have a right to say so, "Sweetie, I'm sorry, I'm broke right now, I can't afford that" or whatever. Respect is a two-way street. But seriously, wow... "warm holes"? I just can't get over that. That's not even all women are to me in terms of sex.
@xinq@xanga - Or maybe it's because, omgosh, I actually have a life and very little time to check Xanga every hour, let alone post multiple comments just to get someone's attention?
@pnrj@xanga - You're new to meeting @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga, aren't you?
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - @laytexduckie@xanga - Sorry! I'll remember not to bring that witchcraft logic on the premises again!
because ppl date out of their league. you never hear 2 ugly ppl have relationship problems.
Ive often wondered why we treat eachother like shit. Looking at human behavior, most examples make up a codependant relationship, and sexualy speaking, considering the LONG standing 'Tabu' status of even the healthiest of sexual endeavors, social rolls became more defined, chasity in women was held as an ideal while 'virile' men were expected to endulge in their innermost fantacies, not with their wives (certainly he never married a woman who engaged in such behavior wantonly) but with ladies of the evening, ladies in waiting, who knew and expected to be used and cast aside, not willing to trade sexual pleasure for status, title or respect.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Im surprised you havent met more independant women. When I was 16 my Dad told me women are making more than their husbands, dont marry it, go get it. Some men hold on tightly to the roll of provider, some women dont mind being throhys... But we arent all the same. It seems leving stero types behind may be benificial.
@pnrj@xanga - He's trolling, dummy.
I wrote the blog you are talking about. My ex is the one who cheated and got someone pregnant! I finally got some answers last night and I thought I would have felt so much better, but I am just as depressed as I was before. It was like he was hoping it would all just go away and I would never find out, also it was like he was getting as much time with me as he could before he had to tell me. Its still so hard but I know I need and have to move on! I have no choice!
When are ppl going to pull their heads out of their asses and realize this is NOT a gender issue, it's a personal character issue?You don't address the actual problem, and yet still wonder why nothing ever gets fixed. Morons."Why do male dogs eat shit?"Because he is a dog. Same reason a female dog does it. It's what they do.
@Under_the_Ghillie@xanga - Copraphagia, ewwww.
@WaitingToShrug@xanga - look, just because I'm not a native texan doesn't mean you have to call me names...
@xinq@xanga - i'm pretty sure that right now they're taking anything that arrives in their inbox.@laytexduckie@xanga - hahaha i had a big lol when i read this. good thing i wasn't at work, or i'd have to smack you.@pnrj@xanga - no problem, i'm happy to elaborate. a lot of what i say isn't supposed to be taken at face value, but there is some truth behind what i said here. i'm not referring to buying gifts for someone i already know well. in fact, i very strongly believe in small gestures of kindness. but, i don't believe that i should go out and spend 50 bucks on dinner for some girl i don't know. dating, the way most guys do it, is glorified prostitution. (by the way, i'm referring to heterosexual dating, as i have no experience with same-sex dating and therefore won't make any claims.) the guy pays for dinner, the girl feels obligated to suck his dick. or even better, sometimes girls say that guys should pay for dates because they're asking for the girl's company, and therefore are obligated to pay. are they for fucking real? here's a better idea: why don't we all go dutch (or do super cheap/free shit like i do)? that way, i don't see you ("you" meaning the girl, obviously) as a prostitute, and you don't feel obligated to put out. sex shouldn't be like that. it shouldn't be a girl thinking "do i owe him something". it should be mutual. same thing for going out on a date in the first place. i'm not asking for your company as a favor from you to me, i'm suggesting that we hang out because BOTH of us want to see each other. therefore, we should BOTH be paying (or i'm happy to pay if it's does that make sense? if not, i'm happy to try explaining in another way.@saia2 - while i've definitely met my fair share of semi-independent girls, it's very, very rare i find those that are independent to the degree that i like. but i mean, if you're as independent as you made yourself out to be, we should totally hang out sometime.
@pnrj@xanga - one more thing i forgot to mention. it's not about being broke. in fact, it's the opposite--i do very well for myself and god knows there are enough gold diggers in the city...so i am constantly on the lookout for girls who are just out for a free ride. fortunately, it's not that common that i come across them, but you'd be surprised at some of the shit i've seen. a couple years ago, i was at a club dancing with this girl. after a few minutes, she asked if i was in vip (because she wanted free drinks). i told her "get your own job, make your own money, and buy your own drinks." the fucking audacity some chicks have...jesus.
Not all guys do. =
PEOPLE = SHITYou play the game, someone is gonna lose.And in life, there are a lot of fuckin losers.
You can only be treated as badly as you allow yourself to be.
OMFG people need to stop with these gender generalization posts! Just because you say guys had posts like this about girls doesn't give you the right to be sexist back, that's just as bad. We all need to stop with stupid posts like this, fucking seriously. I facepalmed so hard my nose is bleeding.
This is what I think about these kind of posts; sometimes PEOPLE suck. Not just men & not just women but human beings in general. They are immature or hurtful mainly because they are young & selfish & haven't quite grown out of it yet. Instead of blaming an entire gender & losing hope in relationships in general, accept that you dated someone who was a dickhead & you need to be more selective about the next man you choose to date. Immaturity sucks, but you can't beat it by acting like a child yourself.
You should read "He's Just Not That Into You".Or you know, just the cover.
I don't like when Men treat Women like crap... I mean if a guy really wants to be with a Women, why treat them like crap?
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - No one needs proof that you are Dr Jeecheroo So the next time you want to submit a post bashing women, just do it on Chibi. We all know it's you. You know why no girl wants to date you? because you're constantly generalizing women. so don't complain when no one wants to date you.
@phoebester@xanga - What about those of us who don't, and still have guys who treat us that way?
I understand where this poster is coming from I think. And I understand and agree with your reply, to a point.*hugs for the poster* Thanks for sharing this. I think a lot of us women wonder that... 
Some men (and prolly some women, too) have not grown up...and do not wish to discuss the consequences of their behavior, so they avoid it. They treat women poorly because they believe they can..that they are more powerful than she is and can get away with it...and the woman permits it because of her lack of self-confidence...And, they certainly have never put into practice Luke 6:31..Christy
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - haha, i know most of your comments are for pure shock value, but keep them coming - they are hil-ar-ious!