I often wonder, "Would I be a good dad if I had a girlfriend and she gave birth?" I would date someone who does not want children, since neurofibromatosis, part of my condition, could possibly be inherited genetically by my future offspring. Even though I have NF, I don't know how it could affect me in the future. Even the doctors don't know... just have to remove the lumps if needed.

As for my other condition, it is a hidden disability (dyspraxia) even though mine is mild. It's still worrying that the child could inherit it and get bullied at school or struggled with some tasks like me. Continue reading →

Awkward.. but mine does. Sometimes I look and .. I just see my ex. Not that he's constantly on my mind, but they look very similar and it's not just me that thinks that way. I feel bad and weird, and I try to just look away because it's only when my boyfriend's eyes are closed, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to be seeing my ex, which ended on bad terms by the way, when I see my boyfriend.

What would you do in my shoes? Is there even anything possible or is there something underlying?

When my boyfriend and I broke up a few years, it wasn't because he wasn't right for me. It wasn't because of fights, pet peeves, or a death of romance. It was so we could have time to grow independently, since we couldn't do that already while we were in our relationship.

At that time, my SO did not want to understand the reason. He was extremely sad and I don't blame him, but it hurt me just as much also.

Then, during one of our talks he pulls out an ultimatum out of nowhere. "It's either now, or never."  Continue reading →

This post was submitted by Sam.

So I met this guy when I was in the 5th grade. We would would hang out, but it was an on-and-off kind of deal. 10th grade rolls around and I started talking to him again. We started dating and about four months into our relationship, I learned that he had gotten a previous girlfriend pregnant! I asked him about it and of course because we are both young as well as the mom, he didn't want to talk about it. Continue reading →

My friend Kurt has been dating his girlfriend, Jess, for several months. Though I’ve never met her, I often ask how the two are doing, and the answer is always some variation of “good” – well, until now. Yesterday, Kurt revealed that he has decided to break up with Jess, but not quite yet. He said he wants to wait until it’s a better time. 

When Kurt said this, I titled my head in confusion. “There’s never going to be a good time,” I said. The way I saw it, break ups just suck, regardless of the day of the week. Plus, by making the decision now but prolonging the action until later, he’s wasting his time and Jess’s.  

Kurt smiled (clearly not too affected by the whole thing) and said, “True, but some times are better than others. I mean, you wouldn’t want to break up with someone on their birthday or on an anniversary. That’s just cruel.” I guess he has a point, but at the same time, I wouldn’t want anyone to date me (or continue to date me) just to do me a favor.   Continue reading →

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I realize that this site is for dating issues, but I'm starting to feel very emotionally drained by my guy friend—who I'm not even in a relationship with.

Note that I rarely text, call, etc. I am a bit of a pushover and only brushed this incident off as my personal fault. However, our friendship just has so many ups and downs. I do have to mention that I think this is just his personality. He's very affectionate and needy, but I'm so opposite of that. The constant needing my attention is really draining, and I feel bad for saying this... but I just don't find hanging out with him enjoyable anymore. It feels like an obligation at this point. He also has a very controlling personality and gets mad easily. I always feel like I'm walking on water around him....

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Next Wednesday, my fiancée and I will celebrate our five-year anniversary. In years past, before we had to support ourselves financially, we celebrated in big (read: expensive) ways. But this year, my fiancée says she doesn’t want to receive or do anything special. I can’t help but to wonder – is she really over anniversary gifts and celebrations, or is she just trying to throw me off?

I’ll briefly run through how we celebrated our other anniversaries. For our one year, Mercedes sent me on a scavenger hunt with a gift at each location, including a Sex and the City box set (you can judge me all you want) and an engraved bracelet with the date we got together. In return, I poured my creativity into a scrapbook that chronicled our relationship.

For year two, I took Mercedes to a nearby resort and spent way too much money on dinners that were way too small. (They were the best steaks we’ve ever had, though.) On our third year, Mercedes bought us tickets to a Penn State football game while I covered the hotel room, and on our fourth, we celebrated by traveling home and spending time with family and friends. Continue reading →

We had to plan. We had to talk about what would happen in these next couples of weeks, months, or maybe even years. We had to talk about living together, or not living together, jobs, our relationship, staying together or breaking up, everything! Those conversations aren't easy, but they are necessary. It's so imperative that you and your significant other are always on the same page, or as close to it as possible. It makes things so much easier!

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Ah, dating is simply not what it used to be – and that may not be a bad thing. Here are 10 cringe-worthy dating tips for women, circa 1938.

1. “Do your dressing in your boudoir to keep your allure.” Yeah, mystery is great! I mean, you wouldn’t want him to know how you put a shirt on, would you?

2. “Makeup in privacy, not where he sees you.” Maybe you were born with those unnaturally red lips. Make him wonder.

3. “Don’t sit in awkward positions… and if you must chew gum (not advised), do it silently, mouth closed.” Posture is everything, ladies. Leave the slouching and the gum to the girls who will be forever alone.

4. “Don’t talk while dancing, for when a man dances he wants to dance.” Talking is so 1880s.

5. “If you need a brassiere, wear one.” ‘Nuff said.  Continue reading →

Okay, so if I wasn't completely confused before, I wouldn't be THIS confused now...

I've known this guy for about three years now. I admit, I don't "know know" him. I know that he's funny, compassionate, and very outgoing. I caught him staring at me once, smiling like an utter idiot. Now, I would assume that he did that to be funny and get a reaction out of me... but I really don't know. This is high school we're talking about, and believe me, I haven't been "around the block" a lot. He's also a very "touchy feely" type of guy.

He can at times come off as a very loving person due to family background, but not frequently enough to make me certain. He would always find an excuse to touch me. This closeness included rubbing my back, to playing with my fingers... what does that mean?!

Now, being a very good friend to his little sister, I went to a semi-formal dance with her and another friend. He came with a date though, with whom I did notice he would stray away from a lot to talk to his other friends. So, I'm guessing that may mean he's not that interested? Anyway, he ignored me quite a bit; never staying around the same area I was in for longer than 5 minutes. Then, out of the blue, he came up to me as I was talking with a friend and asked, "So how are you doing?"

I was in a funky mood all throughout the night. I would get sad because I missed all of the people around me that I've known for so long and hardly ever see anymore, to feeling angry at the fact I had the impression that the only reason guys were asking me to dance was because I was being pitied. After watching him ask nearly all of the girls to dance but me, and myself being asked and having kindly rejected due to my mood, I finally agreed to dance with a guy who asked me to end the night on a sweet note. Continue reading →